[Moose72]

She's been drinking for at least a year and at times fighting and blacking out. Now, she thinks she's found her soulmate and moved in after a month of knowing him.

Tuesday or so, she tells me she's been drinking. And she figured her live-in bf hates her and only likes the girls in porn and he's been looking at porn. I told her to ignore it she'll only make things worse if she acts while drunk.

So the next day, I get an email from my bf- its from my friend! She told him he aught to do this and that regarding OUR relationship! That's the SECOND time she's pulled this and I was pissed.

Then today, she texts me and says I had texted her bf and could she please have my bf's phone number so she can text him!!

I said "That didn't happen. Please don't send drunk, belligerent texts."

Haven't heard back.

WTF?!?!?! I'm so SICK of her drinking and starting trouble! She's 48 and should know better.

Awww Moose , you don't need or deserve this! I don't know how good I am in he friends department, but I would say this isn't a good friend. She is clearly not respecting boundries here. I am one of those people who is of the cross me a few time and I won't be coming back. I am not good at dealing with alcoholics, have you tried talking to her while she is sober, I am guessing you have.

It might be the time you have to get really clear with her about your boundries and hold your ground, and if she chooses not to repect them, then its her choice, but you don't have to put up with it ( I know you know this) It's never easy when it comes to friends hurting us. ((((Moose))))

[Moose72]

She wrote back and said she was sober- said she wasn't drunk. Said her bf said I messaged him. I replied, "Umm no. How would I have his phone number! And maybe on facebook but nothing different than any other fb friend. I'm ignoring you now. You stress me for no reason."

[Detach]

Remember you can't reason with someone when they are drunk... Tell her you will have sober conversations only, your BF is off limits- if she crosses those boundaries you will not be able to be her friend. If she still crosses them, then she wasn't a "friend" to begin with.

[Moose72]

This is true. I haven't heard back but she said she wasn't drunk- still pulling this sober?! I think she is accusing me of this because she's done this to me. She said, "So you texted D. Can I have C's phone number now?!" Grr.... She was a really good friend but she's turned paranoid and nasty.

[Detach]

Originally Posted by Moose72

This is true. I haven't heard back but she said she wasn't drunk- still pulling this sober?! I think she is accusing me of this because she's done this to me. She said, "So you texted D. Can I have C's phone number now?!" Grr.... She was a really good friend but she's turned paranoid and nasty.

Perhaps more of a "time out" is needed vs. ending the friendship. You can firmly tell her you don't know what she's talking about and that she's making no sense and not being reasonable, then stop taking her calls for awhile and stop responding to her texts. She may say she is not drinking, however if she drank hard yesterday she may still be intoxicated now...

For her to push so hard for your BF's number is weird to me..

Hang in there, friend issues are tough, because they hurt so bad....

[Moose72]

I told her I don't have the fortitude for the emotional upheaval she's causing and that I won't contact her unless it stops. I haven't heard back.