[embracinglife]

Roommate problems. I've never really lived with a roommate that I really couldn't stand. But now I do. It almost feels like I'm living with my father - it is that kind of tension. And I really can't stand it.

I know my problem is that I don't speak up enough about how I feel...and then I end up holding in all this anger and it gives me headaches and makes me feel like ****. but i don't know what else to do. I don't really feel that safe expressing my feelings to her.

Our lease is for at least six more months, but until then I don't know what to do. I am seeing a therapist tomorrow so I hope to talk to her about it.

Also, its hard because there's no one I feel that comfortable talking to about it because either they are friends with her too...or because I feel bad because she has somewhat of a disability....and I just feel like a bad person if I were to talk bad about her. Is that messed up?

It's not messed up that you feel this way. Some people just don't mesh.

If you're stuck in a lease there might not be much you can do but try to deal with the situation.

Maybe you can work yourself around this person's schedule. I know that sounds like a lot of work, but it might save your sanity. For example, if you know for sure that she is always home on a particular night at a particular time, you make sure you always have a plan for that time. That could be the time you make for yourself to read a book in your room. You could make that grocery shopping time, laundry time, gym time, etcetera. You get the point.

I realize it may be difficult if this person is always around, but obviously, you need to take care of yourself. That is key here, I think.

Do you have a television in your room? Is there a room you can sit in and tell her that you need *personal time* and you'd like to not be bothered? Do you have family you can visit on at a particular time when you know she's going to be home?

Or, maybe you could just tell her exactly how you feel and that a change needs to be made.