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Old Jan 19, 2006, 08:07 AM
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I wonder how many people go through such mixed up times with older parents. Dad is having some medical issues, and both parents are mixed up about a lot of things, both in their mid 70's. They really argue in a demeaning way with each other and they always have. This makes it so people DONT want to be around them. My Mom is saying she has been so alone since we all left home. That was so long ago! She drives down the road with her cell phone in one hand talking to us and I can hear the seat belt reminder bell going off in her car that she ignores. They have been ignoring doctors orders for Dads care, ignoring all three of us when we try to tell them what the doctors orders are. I guess this happens, but it is both of them at once. Mom has always been a complainer and whiner, so I guess I should expect this. My hubby has an aunt and a sister who are in homes with assisted care, and they lived alone before this. I never heard them complain like these two do. Guess I have to learn to look at the funny side also, but it is very hard. Thanks for the ear everyone!!

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Old Jan 19, 2006, 10:51 AM
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LOL - sorry to laugh but this sounds exactly like my parents..... they cant seem to get along with each other let alone any one else and they have many health problems that they often do not follow doctor orders on, or they take way to many of their already 1,002 pills they have between the two of them.

I just try my best to love them as I can and take a break as I need... they are getting older and their health is not grand, therefore, they feel as though their own body has failed them and that life has let them.

I some times wonder if their discontentment and nick picking is not coming from their own resolved wounds with the marriage and/ or before the marriage, childhood.
Feelings buried alive never die...

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Old Jan 20, 2006, 07:39 AM
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You sound like you know right where I am coming from. Sometimes it is funny! When it really gets to me, I just stay away for a few days.
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