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Nov 07, 2011, 01:11 AM
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I really like a guy friend of mine. I have told him this but he has told me he is not interested and just thinks of us as friends. It is now hard for me to be around him because I really like him as more then a friend and it makes me really depressed that he doesn't. I am not sure why he doesn't feel the same I guess it could be the large age difference (25 years, he is older then me). I know most people would think its weird because of the age difference but I really care for him. We are really good friends. We have dinner and hang out together at least once a week. I really want to ask him why but someone who knows both of us says not to because that would put him on the spot. I guess I'm just trying to work through this.
Its been a week and I just obsess over him and what it could be. Ugh, I wish I could just get over this. I really want to stay friends and be able to hang out but it makes me really depressed; I don't know if I'm just torturing myself by still being around him. I just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place because I don't want to not have him in my life but I also don't want to be tortured. Any advice?
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Nov 08, 2011, 03:20 AM
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But whatever it is, he hasn't confided in you, and that must be painful too.
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Nov 08, 2011, 12:14 PM
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You should take some time apart from him to examine your own feelings more. With the huge age difference, you should look at whether or not your feelings for him are being confused with the feelings you would want from a father figure. If that is not the case, and you feel like you truly love him than I would not ask why he doesn't want to date you. Somethings are better left unsaid. For example, what if you ask him and he says he views you as his daughter or granddaughter? That is not something you want to hear. What if he says he doesn't think you are marriage material? He could say something that is going to make your pain worse. You should enjoy the time you do get with him and the answer will more than likely come out eventually without you having to ask.
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