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Old Nov 11, 2011, 04:41 PM
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Tonight my boyfriend has set aside time for US... He told me to pick a movie (in theaters) and we would go on a date... We haven't been on a "date" in probably over a year. I'm having a freaking anxiety attack over it! I feel as though he's only doing it because I told him several months ago that I was gonna leave him and find a man that would actually spend time with me. (HE has NO real time for me or our son). And I mentioned a few weeks ago that he had made me a promise that he didn't keep, he of course knew right away what I was refering to.

In a way I don't even want to go. We just don't have fun anymore. Keep in mind this has been an on again, off again relationship of over 10 years. We don't live together and we're not engaged. We leave in 20 minutes... Ahhhhh I'm losin it!
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Old Nov 11, 2011, 04:49 PM
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Well you won't see this reply before you leave because I think I'm still being newbie moderated, but oh well.

I kind of understand where you are coming from, but I think you need to step back and take a look at what you wrote.

"Tonight my boyfriend has set aside time for US"

Yeah he did. That's gotta mean something. Maybe he DID do it because of what you said a few months ago. Doesn't that tell you something? Could be that he's trying to make an effort. No one is perfect, and no one can change overnight, but maybe he's trying to be a better person for YOU.

I mean he set aside the time, asked YOU to pick out a movie that YOU want to go see, so that he can take you out on a date. Something you said yourself you haven't done with him in over a year.

Why not go with him tonight, and try to keep an open mind. Try to remember what it used to be like when you two would have fun. Don't go into it thinking it's going to be a miserable evening, or else it most certainly will be.

The only way you two will ever get back to being a couple that are "good for each other" is if you both put in an effort. He made a move. Your turn.
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Old Nov 12, 2011, 12:44 AM
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Thanks for letting me vent. He got called into work so there ya go.. I wish I could just delete this thread..
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