[dusty9838]

I am wanting peoples opinions on something... I know ultimately it's going to be up to me and what is most comfortable but please hear me out anyway.

I am currently going through a lot of depression and anxiety over a relationship loss with my ex. She is someone that i had put all my time, hopes, dreams and I'm deeply in love with her. I never thought she'd ever leave me but she has. So it's as if I can't wrap my brain around the situation because it feels like the impossible has happened.

I am wanting to start therapy to try and work out my problems as much as I can. My question is would it be better for me to find a female psychotherapist rather than a male... because a womans feedback on my relationship would probably be better. I guess I feel like I'll never fully trust again if I ever find another relationship.... and having a womans feedback on my issues would maybe shed more light on things?

Thanks for reading.

[Perna]

I don't think a psychotherapist is going to give you the feedback you might be looking for, they are going to have you work on understanding the relationship and your own hopes and fears for it, your ex-, etc.

For myself, I would think about my parents and pick the sex of the parent I had the most "trouble with" growing up. A lot of our current issues can relate to how we felt we were perceived and treated by those in our earlier lives. If you parents are divorced, especially, how you perceived your father treated your mother or what your mother said to you about your father, etc. might help you the most. Picking the sex of the parent you intuitively know might have influenced you the most, either positively or negatively, might help you understand where you went wrong putting all your time, hopes and dreams in this person who let you down.

I had mostly male therapist and did best when I switched to a female one to work on my relationship issues stemming from my stepmother's and my poor communications as I was growing up.

[smmath]

it is up to you. first i'd try the one you feel most comfortable around, that way you'll be more open and honest with them

[Leed]

I'm a female, and I had the MOST feedback from a female therapist. I've seen several male therapist, but none really did the trick. The female helped me ALOT -- perhaps females have a better understanding of emotions, since they aren't as afraid as males to show them. ???? Who knows -- but I hope you find someone you can relate to easily.

Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee