Don't know how

I have to tell something to my husband and I don't know how to say it. I can't find the words. I have to find the right words or this is going to turn into a mess. I'm trying so hard to keep him calm. Trying so hard. I keep thinking and thinking about this and I just can't find the right words.

Can someone be there with you when you talk to him?

I think however you say it, it can be okay. Our words and communication doesn't have to be perfect.

What might happen if things turn into a mess? I hope that you aren't in a position where other people tell you that unless you talk in an exact perfect manner, things will get upset, and it will be your fault.

How can we help?

If things turns into a mess he will react with angriness. And this scares me.

No, I don't need to talk perfectly. I just need to make him understand before he tells me to shut up and get angry even before hearing the whole story.

Thank you very much Sarah! I appreciate your caring!

Time0,

How about writing down what you want to say so you can practice how you want it to come out when you say it.

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I wish you luck with this and sending good vibes your way.


Huggles,

Jen

Thank you sweetie!

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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Time0}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Is there any way I can help? Please let me know, ok?

Love you!

Dear Time,

When all else fails and I cannot find the exact words I wish to express.... I turn to the old might PEN and WRITE it out.... this way the possibility for screaming or yelling is greatly lessened. Anger is not seen as much this way.

Please do keep in mind that when you talk to your husband that he will automatically take this as a failure on his part (guys are just like that) and he will need some space and time to work it out or sort it all out within his mind.... The Mind - his work bench of LIFE.

Guys need to MAUL things over before they can answer or react - so do not expect a quick reply or solution from your husband, give him time and it will come.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

Thank you so much for your caring and your guidance. I really appreciate your replies.

I have not decided yet when to tell him but it will be soon. I might not be around for a couple of days after or I will be quiet. So do not worry. You can't get rid of me.

I also agree with the writing idea. I know with my bf when he's upset he will not speak to me or even acknowledge me at all. But he will read a letter.

With a letter I think you can say things clearer and will allow you to get across what you want to say without being interrupted or being invalidated in any way.

Good luck.

Yes, writting it down might be good.

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You have a good heart!