[wallacemydog]

I really dont know where to begin, I think, well I'm almost positive my live in boyfriend doesnt love me. Why am I still here? He has never said "I love you" without me pulling it out of him. He doesnt kiss me he doesnt hug, cuddle hold hands none of it unless I beg him to. I am always making excuses for it cuz I know him and his family for 27yrs. They are the most emotionless pps I have ever met, course now that I'm living with him i see way more. they have brought him up to be affaird to show love cuz if he ever did they laughed at him made a fool of him for acting as they call it cacky. He was that affaird of it he stayed with them till he was 36 now he's with me and I am so depressed with the lack of love from him, I'm here with him all the time and I'm so very lonely and broken hearted and confused. I don`t want to hurt him but I need to feel loved and good about myself. He doesnt even know how to say something uplifting to me. He doesnt say anything bad but nothing good either. I am so frustrated with talking to him about it nothing ever changes. I know I cant stay like this forever but how do I move on without hurting more and without causing him more emotional stress? I feel sorry for him but I know you cant base a relationship on that. I do love him with all the years between us its hard but its killing me.

[BlueInanna]

Aww Wallace you have a hard decision to make your boyfriend sounds like someone i was with for years. I moved on but still part of me wishes he would just come sweep me off my feet, but that's not who he is. He's just wired so different from me and he doesn't show emotion. And yea, it was lonely with him.

You are a really sweet person and you love him but you're not happy. Yet you stay with him, then you think there's something wrong with you and now you're depressed. You shouldn't have to live like that. There is a saying, Find your happiness. And it's true because no one can do it for us.

Only you can make the decision for yourself to stay or to leave the relationship. You ask how to move on without hurting either of you... not really possible, it will hurt... Sadly it just is part of life. You can let him know you will always care for him and value your friendship. You can say you're sorry to hurt him. And then you move on, and be strong and take care of your health and heal. I wish you best of luck with everything.

[Leed]

Jeez -- You're living in a vacuum. Nothing is going to change. It's been like this for too many years.

You deserve better than this. He is emotionless. I'm not sure he even knows HOW to hurt.

You have got to move on -- you cannot continue to live without feeling love -- feeling that you are needed and cared for. You will shrivel up and die. Human beings just are not meant to live like that. He's been "programmed" to live like that since he was a child. You were not ---- you won't be able to survive much longer.

Cut the ties and find someone who will love you! You are NOT happy now ---- God intended us to love and BE loved. Don't waste your life. There is someone out there just for YOU. Go out and find that person! God bless you!! Hugs, Lee

[tattoogirl33]

Originally Posted by Leed

Jeez -- You're living in a vacuum. Nothing is going to change. It's been like this for too many years.

You deserve better than this. He is emotionless. I'm not sure he even knows HOW to hurt.

You have got to move on -- you cannot continue to live without feeling love -- feeling that you are needed and cared for. You will shrivel up and die. Human beings just are not meant to live like that. He's been "programmed" to live like that since he was a child. You were not ---- you won't be able to survive much longer.

Cut the ties and find someone who will love you! You are NOT happy now ---- God intended us to love and BE loved. Don't waste your life. There is someone out there just for YOU. Go out and find that person! God bless you!! Hugs, Lee

Lee is absolutly right! I'm in the same situation trying to find a way to let go and move on. I'm now 34 and have a 7 yr old son with my SO. He'll be 40 soon. It's been 10 years 10 YEARS I've been going back and forth with this man and he too is emotionless.. I just can't take anymore no matter how much I love him. My emotional status is deteoriating faster as I get older and am becoming more and more emotionless as each day passes due to this. PLEASE don't make this same mistake.

Maybe we can do this together.. I'm here for you ! May you and I make the best choices for us.

[wallacemydog]

Clearly the advice I got from the 3 of you is right on target. Yes I'm going to move on, perhaps having friends on this site will be able to help me get through. I just have so much love and emotion inside of me to have it staggered this way. I want to love and want to be loved. On with it then Thanks pps for your responses..