[LylaJean]

Yesterday was my brother in-law's 7th birthday and no one remembered but my husband and I. He came over to my house in the morning like always and I opened up the door singing "Happy Birthday" and he didn't even believe me that it was his birthday. It took all day convincing him it was, in fact, his birthday. So my father-in-law comes to pick him up late and doesn't say a word, so I secretly remind him it's his birthday, and he just shrugs. I found out just now that the poor kid got to pick the toppings on the pizza last night and that was his birthday present. Is it wrong of me to be so mad at my in-laws about this? I know they have 8 kids, but forgetting a birthday and not even getting him a present? He's old enough now to remember that his older brother just got a new wii for his birthday, but he gets to pick pizza.... I'm just really sad for him. Can anyone help me understand his parents' perspective on this? How do you get so indifferent to your child's birthday?

[Megan212]

I don't think anyone else could really know what his parents' perspective is besides his parents... but it seems like they just don't care and that is wrong to do to the poor child. The child is going to feel left out and insignificant, if not already. It is totally not wrong to be mad at them...you might feel like you might want to talk to them about this, but sometimes you have to think if its worth getting involved. Maybe YOU and your husband could do fun stuff with the child, if you don't already, and just help the child that way, and maybe also talk to him about stuff, just so he doesn't develop a negative mindset about himself and what he is worth? But its totally up to you if you want to talk to his parents about it or not. You are not wrong in this situation.. because he is also your brother-in-law and he is family. Hope this helps, stay strong!

I am not surprised that you're going mad I would be mad too, Poor child How can anyone forget their own childs birthday? I agree with what Megan has wrote too. ((((hugs))))

[Anderson2011]

You can't change the parents but you can change yourself....meaning if possible maybe you should spend more time with him and maybe do something for his birthday...i really don't understand why people treat children this way...