Wondering

I have a wonderful husband who i have been married to for 13 yrs. The only problem is we just don't talk. His anwsers to me are always short and sweet with no depth to them at all. Is this normal after being together this long? And if this is the only down side should i just let it go???

sad, I was like this with my first love.
I couldnt stand listening to her, I know why,
no one was engaging me in conversation, when I was young

There's a good line I remember from the movie "Four Weddings and a Funeral"...all the friends are sitting around, philosophizing about marriage and the older gay character Gareth (?) says, (and I'm paraphrasing) "I have this theory about why people get married...what happens is when people run out of things to say, they get the idea in their heads that if they get married, that will give them something new to talk about. Its a way out of a boring conversation."

Unfortunately, this is often the case. And then the newness of marriage wears off and it becomes apparent that there's an awful lot of life that happens between the bedroom and the workplace. When the sex drive diminishes you better have something there to replace/embellish it. My advice: don't delay, get your man to start talking now. Best place for jump-starting that is actually in the bedroom, then with any luck, it will allow you to continue conversing in other rooms, with your clothes on. A great conversation will never rival great sex but it will be a nice accompaniment.

Depth is so important, I pray you two will get counseling, and you will get more of the emotional connection you need- we are emotional beings, you NEED this connection. Write us again and let us know how things continue to go..