[inkblot]

There's this guy who likes me. I am a regular customer at the store he works at, so we kind of know each other. We talk a little and he seems really sweet. His eyes have that warm, sweet look. He is nice looking and close to my age. He hasn't asked me out yet, but he is definitely working up to it. He reaches for my hand to shake and hold it, puts his arm around my shoulders a moment to kind of pat me on the back or give a little hug. Today he also mentioned that we should talk more sometime. Then he got paged back to work--until later when he saw me walking down an aisle. Then we were talking again, LOL. I have PTSD which could complicate things. It comes out more when its someone who I don't know, though. I do at least know this guy somewhat in that we have seen each other several times where he works and we have talked almost every time I'm there. I am thinking because of that and that since this potential thing is going slow, that I will be okay--or at least much better off than I would with a total stranger. It could turn out to be "good stress". I was thinking about giving him a Thanksgiving Day card. Do you think it's too much for me to do this?

[jennie]

a thanksgiving card could be appropriate if you are thankful for his kindness he's shown you. if you write a thank-you statement inside the card, then it might not seem strange.

<font color=purple> Man can will nothing unless he has first understood that he must count no one but himself; that he is alone, abandoned on earth in the midst of his infinite responsibilities, without help, with no other aim than the one he sets himself, with no other destiny than the one he forges for himself on this earth. Jean-Paul Sartre </font color=purple>

[bptoo]

It really does sound like a good stress to me. He sure sounds like he's interested in you, and it sounds like you feel the same way. I can understand you wanting to take it slow, and if it goes any further you might want to tell him that. But for now, I think the card is a great idea, maybe write something about being thankful for his friendship, or something like that...I get cards from several of the people I've become friends with online, and it always makes me feel good. I'm sure he'll feel the same way.

Good luck, I hope this turns out to be what you want it to be. You sound happy!

bp

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