[ShootingStars]

Hi

I don't even know where to start again so, here it goes.

First of all, I feel unloved. Unloved by my friends, not respected, taken for granted.
I know it doesn't mean that they don't like me when I don't hear them daily or even weekly, but I'm too dependent on them. I feel like, if I don't hear them, they don't wanna talk to me or be my friend anymore. Which makes me feel lonely.
That's why I wanna be less clingy and less dependent on them.
I don't wanna feel alone, rejected and all paranoid when my friends don't text me weekly or we can't meet up weekly.

Also, one of my best friends has two best friends (me and another girl) I'm not too keen on the other girl cuz she's quite intimidating to me. Sometimes I feel like my friend prefers her over me, cuz she's not asking me to come with to parties and stuff. Maybe it is cuz we all have exams in a while and I really need to study a lot now so I don't have much time to go out and party. But then I start to think that she's not asking me cuz she doesn't want me there.

I just wanna be the laid back, relaxed girl that's not obsessed and scared about her friends. Every time something's different I feel like they stopped liking me and i'll end up alone...

[TealOrca12]

Originally Posted by ShootingStars

Hi

I don't even know where to start again so, here it goes.

First of all, I feel unloved. Unloved by my friends, not respected, taken for granted.
I know it doesn't mean that they don't like me when I don't hear them daily or even weekly, but I'm too dependent on them. I feel like, if I don't hear them, they don't wanna talk to me or be my friend anymore. Which makes me feel lonely.
That's why I wanna be less clingy and less dependent on them.
I don't wanna feel alone, rejected and all paranoid when my friends don't text me weekly or we can't meet up weekly.

Also, one of my best friends has two best friends (me and another girl) I'm not too keen on the other girl cuz she's quite intimidating to me. Sometimes I feel like my friend prefers her over me, cuz she's not asking me to come with to parties and stuff. Maybe it is cuz we all have exams in a while and I really need to study a lot now so I don't have much time to go out and party. But then I start to think that she's not asking me cuz she doesn't want me there.

I just wanna be the laid back, relaxed girl that's not obsessed and scared about her friends. Every time something's different I feel like they stopped liking me and i'll end up alone...

I have been there too, especially during stressful times (like being in college/grad school, stressful jobs, etc). I think the best thing to remember is that most of the time, what people do and don't do isn't about us--sometimes it's easy to make assumptions that people are avoiding us or rejecting us because that's our first instinct-particularly when we are already under unrelated stress. Of course, that doesn't alleviate the hurt feelings that occur when friends aren't there for us! I would try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and try to give people space, too. Sometimes people sense "dependent" vibes and it can make them pull away even more. I know it may be hard to give them time and space, though. Is there anyone you can for sure count on for support regularly?

[ShootingStars]

Yeah, I can talk to my sister.
I asked my friend subtle yesterday, like: hey, if you go out again, ask me too! You know I wanna go out sometimes
and she apologised and told me it was last-minute and most of the time she didn't even wanna go but that friend kept asking and asking and asking...
so I'm good now

Yeah, I have exams and have to study so lots of stress, and I don't have a lot of time to go out either so I'm alone most of the time, not a good position to think about that stuff then too I guess...