[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

So how do you tell your significant other that you need therapy?

Seems like it would be easy but... Some people don't understand the complexities of the mind and the power it has over people. How do you explain to him "Hey I'm not crazy, I'm not unhappy in the relationship, I just need help"?

I know I could say just those words but I need something more, he's rather insecure so I don't want him thinking it's him but I don't want him thinking I'm crazy and I've already pretty much shown him that already.

Any advice? I have to tell him, he would be my ride...

[Perna]

Just keep it on you and what you are doing/need. If he drags it over to the relationship or himself, bring it back to yourself and explain it is something you want for you and that is not about him. He may/may not think you are crazy; find him something useful to read about it?

[Silent_tsol]

The thing that got me finally convinced me to go to therapy was when my s/o cheated on me. I hit my point where I just couldn't deal. I saw someone through my college and because of the set up I could only see her essentially on a monthly basis. I started becoming aware that there were other things in my life that needed to be addressed as well. I couldn't do it with the lady I was seeing at the school because during the month I didn't see her I would rebuild all my walls and become too shy to talk.

So in october (? November? Somewhere around there) I started a new therapist that worked privately so I was free to book appointments based on my needs. He tried to get ahold of me during one of the first few appointments but of course I didn't answer. He panicked and thought the worst. So I eventually had to tell him. And he did think it was because of what he did the year before. And I couldn't lie that it did play a part and it was something we would discuss but that I also had my own issues to deal with. Family issues, anxiety, fears. Things that came all from me. Once we talked about it he was fine and supportive, as should be expected

I don't think (or at least I'm working on convincing myself) that going to therapy means I'm crazy or a lesser person. There was a quote I read that someone else wrote, I'm going to try to add it when I get on my computer

Originally Posted by ECHOES

Sometimes "new" is a temporary distraction, temporary 'cure'. Then it becomes familiar...

I am in therapy to learn about me, and for my life to feel better. I want to be able to trust my perceptions, to be spontaneous, to be open and giving, to enjoy life as fully as possible.
I am in therapy because I want to be.

Originally Posted by rainbow_rose

i'm in therapy 'cause i wanna be as well. it really and truly about self-exploration, dealing with things that are hard to deal with on my own and there is one thing i want most life that i truly feel my therapist is the person who can help me and guide me to help me make my dreams come true.

[taylor43]

I am starting to see a therapist. It was hard to tell my husband because i thought i was going crazy. He is supporting me all the way and he understands it about my issues.

[likewater]

My boyfriend is really supportive. I dont remember how i told him. It was hard, but i think i just took breaths and slowly got words out.