[Koigokoro-Love]

I figure a lot of people aren't going to like hearing this side of a story, but its all that I've been trying not to think about for the last few days. I was in a relationship with the man I consider my best friend, and still do both before this, and now. He had a girlfriend, and she is a friend of mine despite the fact we don't really know each other too well. They live four hours away.

It had been going on now for almost a year an a half i think, and last week she went on his computer and looked up his chat history from the night before. She could have picked a lot worse nights to look, but needless to say she found enough to prove something was going on.

I don't expect her to ever talk to me again, but it still really upsets me knowing that because she's a great woman. The affair was nothing against her in either side, as he still loved her and still very much is in love with her, and the whole point was that he didn't want to leave her, despite also being in love with me.

He's moving to another provence in a few weeks to a month, and doesn't think he's going to be able to see me for more than two or three days before he goes. they're still living together, as he's her only friend where they are, and her biggest support... surprisingly it's helping. But I'm not really aloud to talk to him, and especially when she's home.

The really annoying part is that we'd been talking about breaking it off the last time he was up, for her sake. And I'd gotten fed up with it to the point that I was going to call him the next day and say 'alright, we have to stop. I can't lie to her anymore', but the first text i get of the day is that she's found out. Karma sucks.

Logically i know what i did was wrong, and I know why, and i know i should have cut it off a long time before, we both did. I know I'm not fully responsible, but I know that i do have some responsibility. And I know that there's nothing I can really do fix it except wait and accept what happens... it's just really hard, and I wanted someone to see the other woman's side of things. Because I love him, more than anyone... and it had nothing to do with the way she was, or that she needed to change something, or that I'm more attractive (she's stunning), or any of that. It was simply that I loved him, and didn't mind that he was with someone else as long as I was aloud to kiss him, and hold him, and love him back.

[SpearOfTheLance]

Sorry to hear that. It's his fault for not being faithful to his GF. If he didnt want to be with her, he should have had the respect to end it with her and let her move on with her life.

But it's time for you to move on as well. If he's anothers, then it's over. Its hard to hear, but that's it. You just have to end that chapter in your life and move on.

Things happen, we're all human beings.

[Callmebj]

Sorry from what I have read, the guy is a cad. You are pretty responsible too for not considering him off limits as he was with your friend. As to what you should do now is
listen to SpearOfTheLance about closing that chapter now. You goofed big time, but folks do make mistakes...just don't stay in that mistake.