[AloneNumber3]

I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 4 months. I really love her and i care about her more than anything in the world....but both of our parents don't approve of us being in love. Her mother doesn't like the idea of her liking girld and my parents think its wrong (they're christian). I know that if I broke up with her that it would cause both of us hert and pain but I don't want her to get in trouble with her mom.

Should I stay or should I go??

[taylor43]

I would stay if both of you love eachother. My parents do not like the ideah of me being married to a older guy. Its hard but the relationship with my man is more important then my parents.

[lido78]

Regardless of your decision to stay with or break up with your girlfriend, you may want to talk to someone about your sexual orientation. Even if you and your girlfriend split, your parents will not approve of anyone that you fall in love with because of their particular set of values. If they value your happiness, howevr, you may be able to work with them to help them accept you for who you are. In the end, it may just mean that you have to live with their disapproval...but, hopefully, they will only want your happiness...and be happy if/when you find someone who loves and respects you.

[Callmebj]

Hi alone, 16 is awfully young to be to have a serious relationship with another guy/girl. I am glad that you are considering your parents in this. Like Lido said though parents do want their children happy. I personally would hope that you would consider maturing more before you have any kind of committed/intimate relationship. You seem to be pretty shattered by this at present and most folks have been there on their first love, me included. Do you have plans after HS to attend college or a trade school?
hugs, bj

[AloneNumber3]

Callmebj, I know that i am young, but i've had to grow up relly fast. I' the third chile in my family and there are 6 other kids younder than me, about to be 7, and i've had to take care of then just like a mother. As for my plans, I want to go to collage and get my bachlores degree in Art Education and be an art teacher.

[obgynkenobe]

i've been the older person in a relationship like that and i was only out of high school a year and he was a junior, according to his parents i was older and more mature just being out of school for the time i was. but enough about my story- i can tell you from experience that my values and priorities have changed dramatically since i was 16, the things i looked for in a significant other have also changed. you need to remember that at sixteen- hormones are flying at a high rate of speed and that you need to be careful if you're going to be sexually active-- because no matter how much you love someone, you don't want to put them in any situation where they'd be uncomfortable. accidents happen, especially when YOU'RE IN LOVE silly! lol maybe her parents see a change in her that scares them. they see everyday the changing world around their little girl and they can't control what happens to her outside their house, but it can tear the heart out of a parent to worry whether or not their child's needs are being met. they want to test you through fire to make sure you're in it for the long run... not just being the wolf. chin up sweetheart.. i've seen people work through things like this. just remain honest with them and respect curfews. encourage her to as well, i may also suggest speaking to them and reassuring them of your intentions. good luck-- don't give up, think with your mind and your heart