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#1
Feb 19, 2006, 11:49 AM
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Phooie Spit Spit -
I could just strangle my dear sweet husband today..... his male ways are driving me NUTS.... I think I will spend the day in bed - sleeping away my inner problems and woes - and maybe saving my marriage from further death. For if I am not around to be irritated by him and the other 3 males in the house today, than I cannot say something or act in a way I regret later when..... when I return to my senses, back to ME - lol.         .......  LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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Feb 19, 2006, 12:01 PM
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((((((((((((((((((((rhapsody)))))))))))))))))
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 No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another. Good example is followed. A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves.
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#3
Feb 19, 2006, 12:11 PM
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Thanks "K".... I really need help in removing this empty space in my soul today, which tells me that this issue probably goes much deep than it merely appears....
LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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#4
Feb 19, 2006, 12:26 PM
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Ok.... see YOU all later.... hubby just got up from BED and my anxiety level just shot through the roof and I am now feeling overwhelmed - going to retreat to the safety of my room for while.
Just me and my Pepsi..... smiles. Take-Care everyone and please say a PRAY or two for ME today.... LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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#5
Feb 19, 2006, 12:38 PM
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praying allready take care
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No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another. Good example is followed. A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves.
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Feb 19, 2006, 02:49 PM
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I hear ya (((((((Rhapsody)))))))) I raised three sons....and their father. he he. I hated it when my only daughter left home and I was alone with all these guys.....barbarians at times. lol Now I only have my husband and one son at home and still they try to rule the place. Sometimes retreating to a safe place is a great idea.
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#7
Feb 21, 2006, 09:18 AM
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Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh - what can't (or won't) MEN ever say I AM SORRY, when they are the one that did the wrong and in turn deeply hurt you.... my husband and I have not talked to each other or slept next to each other in 4 days and all because he was a jerk and now he will not step up to the plate and be a man.... or maybe he is being a man in his typical male silence - go figure.
BTW - no hate mail please.... I am talking about my husband here - not all males (OK). LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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#8
Feb 21, 2006, 12:27 PM
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Twiddling my thumbs and eating chocolate.... will this help? PROBABLY NOT - but it sure does taste good.
LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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#9
Feb 21, 2006, 07:01 PM
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{{{{{{{{{{{{Rhapsody}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Some men think it makes the "macho" to be rude and mean to their wifes.
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Psalm 119:105 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. |
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#10
Feb 21, 2006, 11:20 PM
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Yes, that is true.... but do not get me wrong, he was not being mean or rude to me - just a jerk with his words (after getting upset) - his words and the look in his eyes hurt me.... and there was NO - I AM SORRY!
LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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#11
Feb 22, 2006, 02:37 AM
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My husband very rarely apologizes, especially if he is actually wrong. He has enough arrogance that he believes he cannot do much wrong!
I agree with you that words hurt. It is easier to toss the words aside but to forget a look in his eyes? Harder to do! How are things now? Thoughts with you.
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#12
Feb 22, 2006, 10:15 AM
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Yeah I know, most MEN seem to find it hard to say I'M SORRY - for in their mind, they are saying I FAILED.... which is a males biggest fear in life.
I understand where he is coming from as a male - I just wish he would take the time to understand me as a female, that I need to hear IT.... it leaves me knowing I am LOVED, therefore, special enough to be given the time to. Things are about the same here - a few words have been spoken, but not to freely - they seem more forced.... I tried to snuggle up to him last night (I needed the comfort) and while he did not retreat from my touch he did not touch back.... sigh. Oh well, that's life with two individual humans beings, with their own minds, thoughts, and hurts that control them in different ways.... I guess that is why God created Unconditional Love.... one needs it to love another. LoVe, Rhapsody - >>>> back to eating my DARK CHOCOLATE.... comfort in a square. |
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#13
Feb 22, 2006, 10:37 AM
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I really understand how lonely this can be. There are times when my husband and I have had arguments or fights and I hate the days that follow when we are not really speaking or touching. It is horrible sleeping in the same bed but so far apart. Oh, and that icy feeling of not really returning the touch. I really know where you're at.
I have, more than once apologized for his argument, just to get my husband back. Sometimes this still makes me feel angry. The best apology I have had from him is "I've thought about things". And that is that - no further discussion. Doesn't exactly answer questions for me. But this is not about me - it's about you. I know you must be feeling very lonely now. I wish I could ease that. Take good care of yourself.
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#14
Feb 22, 2006, 11:08 AM
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Hmm - LIFE will be better but once again - I just need to ride the storm out...
And on my husbands behave he is not all that bad - he has apologized many times to me (more in the last 8 yrs than the entire 23 yrs together) and he even had tears in his eyes with some of them.... I guess it is hard to function at times when both of the people in the relationship is fighting so hard to over come their own inner wounds, from childhood. Big Sigh.... LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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#15
Feb 23, 2006, 01:01 PM
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UPDATE: Copy of a message I sent to my husband via Net Mail.... waiting for a reply.
I wish we knew what to do to fix the problems in US and between US... I just keep seeing the ANGER, HATE and RESENTMENT in your eyes for ME from last Friday - a LOOK that told me that my past feelings I thought you always held toward me were correct... Now what? (Big Sigh) - from my side of the fence, what I have been feeling from within. LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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#16
Feb 23, 2006, 02:39 PM
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HIS REPLY:
1.) Is it possible for me to be allowed to do something my way w/o someone making me feel that i was doing it wrong ? I have a mind & feelings of my own (in despair). - - - THEN CAME - - - 2.) I felt belittled (but i miss you & do love you) * * * * * * What to do now (?).......................... I know I was partly wrong in what happened, but it all happened so fast that the damage was done before I (or he) could stop it. Neither one of us is BAD or EVIL at heart, just HURTING... * * * * * * LoVe, Rhapsody -
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#17
Feb 24, 2006, 11:32 PM
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Ok --------------------- HE held ME last night while we fell a sleep for the night (and) he gave me a kiss when he came home from work tonight (no wait - 2 kisses).
 LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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#18
Feb 25, 2006, 01:48 AM
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 I am so happy for you.
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Crying isn't a sign of weakness. It's a sign of having tried too hard to be strong for too long. |
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#19
Feb 25, 2006, 01:52 AM
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Good Morning - to YOU too.................... good to see YOU. (but) sadly it is about 1 am here - so I will be going to bed soon - boo hoo....
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> those darn time zones. LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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