[Nams]

This is long but please bear with me. I am not sure what is going on I'm worried about her. Her Dr. is a pill pushing moron, I know this as he was my Dr.
Aunti in her younger years suffered a lot of abuse at the hands of my G'rents and her husband back then. She has been through some serious drug abuse/electro shock therapy, back in the days when it was used(abused) for everything. Her big sister died of a heart attack a cple of years ago. Her one brother a twin is in a wheelchair with severe brain damage due to being beaten in a bar the other twin is basically mentally comatose he went on a week long drug binge after after being clean for 20yrs and collapsed. The only one left is my mother and she is 4 days away and has her own issues medically and mentally to help, plus I don't want her to worry.
Her children are all very selfish and the one(K) is in and out of Hospital for violent behaviors, so can be of no help. I am afraid of (K). She used to beat me up regularly just because..longer story, I have a restraining order on her due to harassment and threats against my children, so I cannot call her.
Anyway on to Y I am worried, I went to see her and she was making tea, talking to me, went quiet, then all of a sudden she was yelling at me calling me by my mothers name, then just as quick she was whispering to me about the guys that come and tie her up and rape her. She was then back for lack of a better way to put it...I mentioned it and asked her if she needed me to call her Dr. she seemed unaware of any of it and asked what I took in my tea. I tried to talk to her one daughter about it and she just brushed it off like it was no big thing "That's just Mom" So here I am.
I am worried about her but don't know what might be going on. I am wondering IF its a possibility of alternate personalities but the info out there is so confusing and clinical, so many things that don't make sense to me. Any suggestions or help would be appreciated. What can I do. I don't want to ask my T(wonderful man) as I don't want to impose on him about someone else. Any help would be appreciated guys.

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Nams

Hi sorry to hear your going through this right now. Your therapist is there for you to talk about whatever it is thats worrying you, at least then you'll be able to offload to him and hopefully feel better. Could your aunt possibly be going through PTSD? she could on the other hand be having a reaction some medication she may be taking that you don't know about. I guess its impossible to say though without her getting a professional opinion. Perhaps you can get her to go to the doctor for something else and maybe her doctor can observe her and possibly help her get better that way? a lot of family doctors are psychs too so it may be worth seeing if this is the best way to tackle the problem. Good luck.

[Nams]

Thanks bb2023 I never even thought of those things. I think I will bring this up at my next T session, ask him maybe what he recommends. I know he probably wont mind and maybe will make me a little less concerned, I just worry that she is alone a lot and I am not always able to visit as much as I would like. Your suggestion of the med change is a very good possibility that I just never thought of and PTSD would also make sense...maybe after all these years and all the unfortunate events in her life as of late re her siblings she has just had enough and its all hitting her at once.

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Originally Posted by Nams

Thanks bb2023 I never even thought of those things. I think I will bring this up at my next T session, ask him maybe what he recommends. I know he probably wont mind and maybe will make me a little less concerned, I just worry that she is alone a lot and I am not always able to visit as much as I would like. Your suggestion of the med change is a very good possibility that I just never thought of and PTSD would also make sense...maybe after all these years and all the unfortunate events in her life as of late re her siblings she has just had enough and its all hitting her at once.

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Thats ok sweetie, i just hope she gets the help she needs but remember ur wellbeing is important too. If things get rly bad is there n e way she could come stay with u for a little while if u would be happy to do that? N e way keep talking on here, we're all here for u

[Nams]

I wish she would come to the farm with me I have been trying but she just doesn't like to leave her house....home = security I think. I brought her out here one day, she was here an hr and got very panicky so I took her home and we hung out there instead. I def'ly will keep talking....its helpful in more ways than one. This place so far has been good for me even tho I have only been here a few days, there has been such positive feedback on all posts mine & others its a comforting feeling that I can ask these ? and say whats going on in my head/heart without fear of laughter or judgement.

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Originally Posted by Nams

I wish she would come to the farm with me I have been trying but she just doesn't like to leave her house....home = security I think. I brought her out here one day, she was here an hr and got very panicky so I took her home and we hung out there instead. I def'ly will keep talking....its helpful in more ways than one. This place so far has been good for me even tho I have only been here a few days, there has been such positive feedback on all posts mine & others its a comforting feeling that I can ask these ? and say whats going on in my head/heart without fear of laughter or judgement.

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Nams

Im so glad you feel that way PM me anytime you need to chat and i wish you the very best of luck. You sound like a really supportive person - your aunt is lucky to have you in your family in my view

[Nams]

Thanks bb2023 I actually called her the other day and she has agreed to come out to the farm next week for the afternoon at least. I told her that if she wanted to go home we could do that immediately but that I really wanted her to come out and see the changes I had made to the house. Shes all for it YAY. I have an appt with my dr in 2 weeks too with her, he has agreed to meet my Aunt (M) and she wants to go just to meet him. I trust my Dr and know he will be able to help her if she chooses to take him on. Her daughter basically said she didn't care what I did "because it isn't her problem" oh well. I did call my Mom to talk about some of my concerns, altho I didn't tell her everything, for her sake she said whatever I need she will do, which is a relief. Thanks again for listening and the great advice and alternative possibilities. Just thought I should update you as you where here when I needed you.
Thanks again will keep you updated.

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