[afterrain]

There is this person that I know from high school, who just started talking to me. He ask if we can hangout the other night, just to chat. You know to get know one another better. I never really talk to this guy in school. So my feeling were okay I guess nothing wrong with that. This guy is a nice person (so I think because I really don't know him).

So we hangout for we can chat. The whole time that we were chatting, he wanted to kiss me. And I was like no, I'm not like that. He tried more than once to kiss and push him off me. I think that he might like me or something. I do remember in high school that he had some feeling for me, but I never liked him in that way. I still don't like him in that way.

And to make things worse he has a girlfriend. He said his relationship is very complicated. I think that his girlfriend didn't know that he came to see me. I do not want to get in the middle of his relationship.

I don't want to leading him on. I just think that we could be friends but I don't know if that can happen. My question is how do I tell him that?
please help

[Caretaker Leo]

Good for you for pushing him away at this point! If he is really interested, he will respect your feelings.

I don't know that you have to tell him anything directly. You can choose not to respond to his text messages, emails, phone calls - whatever media you are using now to talk with him. Sometimes silence can send a BIG message.

[Harley47]

I would just tell him, were it me. I do think it was wrong of him to try to kiss you if he is in a relationship, and I think it was very wrong that you had to tell him no and push him off you more than once. That, to me, speaks to a lack of respect for you.

You aren't leading him on or getting in the middle of his relationship...at least on your own, in the case of the latter. You aren't doing anything of the sort to lead him on IMO. As far as getting in the middle of his relationship, if he puts you there by doing this, that's nothing I would blame you for. That's his fault.

If I were you, I would tell him that you are not interested in being anything more than friends with him, and tell him that if he acts the way he did last time you two met, you aren't interested period. That's me, anyway.

I hope I was of some help. Take care.