[theysayitsbeautiful]

It feels like I'm spamming this forum, but I have so many questions.

To go straight to the point; I'm bisexual, I found out that I was bisexual in 2007 when I got attracted to one of my best friends, we were in a relationship after I told her that I had feelings for her. I told my dad a few weeks later that I was in a relationship with a girl and he was fine with it.

I waited to tell my mom because I didn't know how she would react. So I waited till early 2010 before I told her. She said what most parents would say, "You're going through a phase, you're confused". Point is, I'm not confused. I know I can get attracted to girls and I have had several girlfriends.

Now it's two years later, and she's still calling me lesbian when I have told her that I'm bisexual and that I can get attracted to both genders. What's annoying is that she still thinks this is a phase when I have had girlfriends since 2007. What can I do to make her see that I'm not going through a phase and that I'm not confused?

I have recently fallen in love with a girl I have known for a while, and I'm going to tell my mother about her whether she wants it or not.

[shezbut]

It sounds like your parents understanding and acceptance of your sexuality is very important to you. I can understand you not wanting to feel condemned for feeling __. That's very human.

I just see the answer to your Q, about what can you do to make your mom see that you aren't going through a phase or simple confusion, is to let go of that for now. Your mom may just need time to adjust to the concept as you adjust to living your life the way that you'd like.

Personally, I don't understand why your mom's confusion of your sexual interest being bisexual (rather than lesbian) so distressful to you. Just curious why that particular point..... Just my opinion.

[theysayitsbeautiful]

I just want to be accepted by my mother, and right now I'm not accepted because I'm bisexual. That's all I want from her, I want to be respected and accepted by her.

[Blondboy44]

Are you saying that she would be MORE accepting if you said you were lesbian instead of bisexual? That is what you seemed to be saying from your last post. It may very well be that she is not really accepting of anything except straight heterosexuality. What do you think?