[ADDithers]

I read this article today - several times - am trying to understand it

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000...160881402.html

I don't think I am 'anxious attachment' or a 'giver' - but affection - at least a little - is - nice. Yet I can't imagine 'asking' for a hug from my wife.

[turquoisesea]

I think the article may be talking about two possible types, and seems to focus mainly on extremes? I also think, that the reserved types still like a little affection, just not as much as the givers? That's what I got from the article. =)

What I understand from it is, in short, some people (givers) are more emotionally driven to express their love more often in physical ways and others are more reserved (reserved) and don't like to do this as often. It seems that often, opposites attract so it can be common that there are two different types in a relationship - a giver and a reserved. When this happens, the giver may start to feel like their reserved partner doesn't love them because they aren't expressing their love as much, and the reserved partner is confused for similar reasons.

I think the article focuses on communication as a solution to this possible problem?
I don't think the article is saying you have to be a giver OR a reserved, those are just some types? And I'd guess that maybe you can be more like a reserved than a giver , but not completely reserved...


don't know if that helps at all, just how I read it

and thank you, good article!

[gma45]

Communication is important, how does she know what you want if you don't ask? Does she know that a little affection would be nice? Sometimes we get so caught up in our own needs and wants we forget about what our spouse may need or want, which I don't think is good for a relationship. I wish you well. By the way--Good article!