[bit of a mess]

ive been dating my boyfriend for the last 8 months and i love him very much. im 17 and he is 20. he is amazing and treats me like im his princess. but he wants to go and hang out with his friends and go drinking on the weekends. he has only ever gone out once since we have been dating and i worried like crazy the whole time. i dont want to hold him back and i feel so bad because he doesnt want me to worry, but i can tell he really wants to be able to go out. i really want to trust him but i just cant stop myself from freaking out everytime he even just gos out with his friends. what should i do??

[Leed]

Hi ~ He hasn't given you any reason to doubt him has he? He hasn't cheated on you, right? He's only 20 -- where does he "go drinking" when he's underage?? I'd certainly frown on that, but you can't control what he does.

I wouldn't worry about him -- other than him getting caught for drinking. If he hasn't given you any reason to doubt him, then don't fret about it. Why should you? Even it you HAD reason, what good does worrying do anyway? All it does is make you crazy.

Besides, you're pretty young to be tieing yourself down to one person. Why not just have some fun, and meet lots of people? You'll have plenty of time to be tied down when you eventually get married!

Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee

[bit of a mess]

im from Australia so the legal drinking age is 18 here. and no he hasnt given me any reason to doubt him. i just worry alot for no reason

[Scotty204]

It sounds like you really care for this guy and you just don't want to get hurt which is understandable. You cannot control what he does when your not around but you can only trust that he's really into you and won't do anything bad. Let him have a guys night out once in a while. At least he's asking you and telling you who he is with and where he's going so he's being honest right? If he starts going out and he doesn't tell you or say who he's with then you have cause for concern.

[Perna]

I don't know about trust, but it sounds like a slightly strange relationship; his only participating Monday to Friday and then weekends wants to do something different? Why are you not part of his weekend plans?

The 18/21 age is for purchasing alcohol, not drinking it; even in the US only 15 states have an age limit on drinking it (hence the signs/billboards in the US asking adults not to buy for teens); there is no age limit for drinking in Australia.

Are you living together? I don't understand the set-up and how often you see each other, etc. If you are living together, then you and he should be doing things together pretty much and/or your should have at least tried whatever he wants to do and decided you'd rather be doing something else for yourself. If you are not living together, you should not be thinking too much about what he is doing when he is not with you; go out with girlfriends or family or whatever you would like for yourself and your own life?