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Mar 10, 2012, 04:24 PM
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I have a friend that I care about a lot. I will always be there for him and he knows that. The last two months I lend him money, he has not paid me back. He owes me $215.49. The first month he ask me, I was like okay I'll help you out. The second month he ask me, I was a little upset because I never got a thank you from him. I told him I was mad at him for not saying thank you to me. He did say thank you to me after that. And now he just ask me for other hundred. I want to help him out but I do not want to be use. what should I do?
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Mar 10, 2012, 04:31 PM
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Help people help themselves don't help people keep themselves down.
I am a sucker for helping people out but there does a come a time when you need to say no. I find it odd and discomforting that he neglects to say thank you. I would explain to your friend how you feel and also maybe make some suggestions pertaining to his current situation so he does not need to borrow money anymore.
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Mar 10, 2012, 04:47 PM
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afterrain, I think the rule I had heard years ago is; do not loan money to friends, do not loan money to relatives. Sometimes it's hard to say "no", but for your own sake, it's the best you can do with this "friend". Some people will wear you out with borrowing or always needing help. Don't continue to facilitate him on this, he will be back next month for more. Users will take and take. Not thanking you; unforgivable!
Hugs, bj
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Mar 10, 2012, 04:50 PM
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Absolutely don't give this guy another penny. I also have a feeling he won't be paying this money back. Be firm and don't feel bad - learning to say no is a valuable thing.
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Mar 11, 2012, 12:15 PM
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I make a very logical rule to lend money to someone but they have to pay that back before I lend more. It's not at all unreasonable and I don't feel bad stating it. To heck with the "thank you"; I would cite that as another reason not to lend him more; if he has to be reminded to be polite and grateful and is taking you for granted? I don't think he'd get more of my money and I'd start bugging him so hard for repayment he'd be avoiding me :-)
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Mar 12, 2012, 10:37 AM
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