[kchipmunk]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over a year. He's been going through some tough stuff lately and as a consequence of this he's been treating me like rubbish. This made me feel horrible and we disscussed it. He didn't stop treating me like rubbish until last Friday when he told me that on thursday night he kissed a girl from our school. I'm not mad at him or sad even. Just thoroughly dissapointed. He told me straight away which was decent. I'm still with him and yesterday we talked and he thinks we're fizzling out. The reason behind this is because he's been messing up so much. He thinks that he's been messing up so much because we're "fizzling out". I disagree, I think he's just been stupid. What should I do? Thanks

[Leed]

Did you ask him if his feelings had changed? Does he WANT to continue with the relationship? Perhaps he says things are "fizzling out" cause he doesn't feel the same anymore, or he wants to play the field. He just might not want to come right out and tell you that. It's time to have an open & honest talk. I hope you can.

Best of luck -- I wish you the best. Hugs, Lee

Originally Posted by kchipmunk

he thinks we're fizzling out.

Listen to the man. If he thinks you're fizzling out. You're fizzling out. It does not matter whether this belief is rational on his part. It could be irrational and it would still be true.

It's like the Henry Ford quote, “The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can't are both right.” It's all about attitude. Him telling you he thinks it's fizzling out is revealing his attitude. He doesn't think it will work.

You both sound young, high school or college, you don't need this stress. Don't rationalize. Don't make this an emotional thing. It's a business decision. Just leave. You'll thank yourself later. Find someone who doesn't treat you like crap and believes in the relationship.

That is hard to hear, no matter what the age. It's the sagest advice you're going to get.

[LookingforCalm]

Honey, you need to cut your losses, learn from this and move on.

He's telling you that you're "fizzling" out because he probably wants YOU to break up with him. He's been somewhat honest with you, and I think you need to save yourself the time and break up with this guy.