My Fiance's Cell Phone Mania

I am wondering if anyone has a husband [or wife] that is addicted to their phone. My fiance has an iphone he uses for, well, everything. Sports, google, email, text, etc. He is a manager where he works and gets emails all the time. During dinner, in bed, while driving, while taking in our daughter, etc. Then he checks them as soon as he gets them. I never see him without his phone in his face anymore and it is really starting to bother me. I don't think it is just so much as dedication to work or addiction to what the phone holds as much as I think it is his escape from the world. I feel like he doesn't want to give his attention to anything else, or put efforts into reality anymore. Something like that.. But geez it is bugging the crap out of me.
Now, I can be wrong with where my thoughts are going. It could just be dedication to work as he was just recently named number one manager of his company [which is probably going to fuel the fire] But can't work be put on hold when you are "spending time" with your family? I want to ask him to turn the noise off on his e-mail notifications so we don't have to hear it in bed on a Sunday or during dinner or reading books to our daughter.But I am afraid he will think I am out of line or being irrational.

Input anyone?? Thank you

I was in a previous relationship in which my partner would be on the phone or on the laptop quite a lot. I just looked at it as their thing, habit and behaviour and found it harmless. But then it became apparent that they were talking to their male friend, all the time. Being me I said nothing, because I am cautious about coming across as over bearing or possessive. In the end she dumped me for him. But I guess it's different for all. I would add though, that if they are always on the phone it is kind of suspicious, as even business types need to save on minutes.

Sounds like he's a tad too attached to his phone, or who's on the other end.
I don't think you are being irrational or out of line at all. It sounds very disruptive, let him know how you feel, he may not realize it bothers you.

chaotic

I am in a similar predicament. Yes its a bit frustrating. We've had a few brief talks about it and he is trying to curb it a bit, he might be receptive if you just bring it up in as an observation, and let him know you are concerned he might be missing out on other things. My bf isn't talking on the phone, he's searching, researching, forums, stocks, texting.. ect. He is also an IT tech, and I think he feels a little lost with constant information being fed to him through a screen. I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask for sometime with out the distraction.

I know how it feels to be sucked into the digital world, I work in IT as well. So can understand how one can get lost but family time it my number one priority to me and when they are around everything else can shrivel and drop. I may have chewed into him about it tonight.. I was expressing the way I felt in kind words but very honest at the same time. It was through an e-mail because I was at work brewing about it. He wrote me back and said "so you don't think I have my priorities straight?" I don't think it was meant to be defensive though. I felt bad, I suck at telling him about things that bother me in a nice way. I have told him many times to get off the computer when he is home alone with our daughter and not paying attention to her [she is five.] But I have to keep telling him, and telling him and telling him. It is either the phone or computer.

I don't think he has any digi-flings on the other end, he just isn't like that.
Thank you for your input though, you are right.. too attached.

I think I'd rent the movie "Hook" and watch it as a family, see if he "gets it" :-)

Lol, the Caption Hook movie from 1991 with Robin Williams? I that move.
I totally should rent that and other movies with the same meaning. We will be watching a lot of movies through out our sobering nights. I wonder what other movies have the same message?
TY for the tip

Have you tried talking to him? Ask him if he can put the phone abway for a bit and just spend time with everyone. Make a rule like "No phones or anything during dinner, or during 'family time' like games, or movies" or something. My dad is really good about that, and puts his phone away when he's at home. He just leaves it on the kitchen counter. every now and then he'll grab it, check it, and then put it back. He just leaves it in one spot all the time when he's at home.

He also brings a lot of his work home with him, but the only time I really see him on his laptop when the family is around is when he's watching TV with my mom. And she's usually knitting, so it's all good.

His behavior has influenced me to not answer my phone at all if I'm talking to someone, or if I'm at dinner, unless I know that one of my friends is in trouble and it could be them (aka, life and death situations).

Talk to him and set up ground rules. If he gets mad, tell him how it's making you feel, and that you can't help but be hurt or feel suspicious.

If he doesn't gret that.... well...

Also, I second Perna's idea. That's actually a great idea, lol.

Yes: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0102057/quotes?qt=qt0442187

"Brad, have you ever wondered what it feels like to fly?" (right before Peter throws his out the window)

Yikes I'm sorry I'm guilty of this. I use my phone for everything

and play "cat's in the cradle" song for him. I can't paste from my phone.

Good one, hankster!

And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

OMG I use to listen to that song when I was in grade school. My grade 5 teacher played it in class on guitar... and I brought it home... and my mom cried and it took me YEARS to figure out why!

I love that song!

But! try not to get too passive aggressive. It really hard to get something across to someone when they're already mad that you were passive aggressive towards them. I know I get irrational if I think someone's trying to manipulate me, even if that wasn't how they meant it. I always just wish they'd told me strait up.