[Drewski]

Let me start off by saying hello, as I am new to this forum. I was looking up stuff about my situation at school and happened to find this forum, so I made an account and the like. This will probably be a long post, so I'm sorry for the inconvenience
--Let me start of by giving you a little back story on this whole thing. I met this girl, Elizabeth, about three months ago at a party. We hit it off good for the few hours I was there, and we had an instant connection. We talked for two months or so before I finally got the nerve to ask her out. I was very cheesy with it, but very romantic about it. We were practically dating for a month and a half before this as well.
--After about a month of a great relationship, we hit a little speed bump. She wanted to break up due to "No feelings for me anymore." Which I completely understood, and I somehow managed to win her back. After that it was still a little rough, but we managed and we were getting back on track when she told me she had feelings for somebody else, but not the feelings she had for me. The feelings for this other guy weren't mutual, and they only existed because he was "Hard to get." I contacted a couple of my previous ex's (Yes, very good resources if you keep them as friends) and they all said that it happens and to keep moving on with her, so I did.
--So this is where all of the drama in my story comes in. Me and a buddy of mine went to a party and we ran into her, with that other guy. I of course, as her boyfriend got mad and started to ignore her. She wanted to talk to me about it, but I kept ignoring her so the she left with two other guys. One of them being a good friend of mine who has helped me through this a little bit. Me and my buddy that I went to the party with left to go to another party, and just so happens it was the same party they were going to.
--I fell in and started talking to her, because I just care and I want(ed?) to be with her and would do anything for this. She walked away and her sister started sticking up for me asking if she was going to fix 'this', and she just walked away.
--Next thing I know these three girls come up and talk to me about my girlfriend following "THAT" guy. I told them I trusted her and that she wouldn't do anything with him, and if she did it was her loss. They went and started talking to the guy, and told him I was mouthing off to him. This started a lot of drama as half of the party, including the host, are related to him. I went up, being the bigger man, and apologized for any miscommunication that happened and that I was not mouthing off. He said whatever and we both got on equal terms.
--After all of this happened I got word that Elizabeth (mygirlfriend) was sitting in an abandoned vehicle crying. I, in my drunken stooper, wouldn't leave her alone and started confessing all my feelings for her. She ended up breaking up with me, and we left. Shortly after we left the party got busted and she got an underage, and she was on probation so she is in deep trouble.
--Well we some how managed to work through that, for a few days. Then out of no where she started acting weird and I was asking what was wrong and she started to blame all that happened that night, her underage and possible JDC time, on me. I got mad, this was the only time she ever made me mad by the way, and I broke up with her and told her to "***** off, I don't want to talk to you." And she told me she wasn't going to ever talk to me again.
--Well the next day she texted me saying "I wore your necklace and sweatshirt all day, and slept with your teddy bear." I didn't show any signs of emotions and ignored it. She kept showing signs of wanting to get back together, but saying she couldn't and all of this and that if she saw me she would fall for me again. Then about four days after this initially started (Me breaking up with her) she deleted my number, unadded me on facebook and unfollowed me on twitter. Her tweets the next few days consisted of, "Baby you amaze me #hardtoget" and all of this. I of course got jealous, but did not text her and haven't texted her since this has happened, which was about a week ago.

I had a dream about her last night, she was running from me and I kept chasing her, and I don't know what that means. I want to apologize and try and get her back because she means a lot to me and well... I love her.

Thanks - Drewski

[Sheba976]

Originally Posted by Drewski

Let me start off by saying hello, as I am new to this forum. I was looking up stuff about my situation at school and happened to find this forum, so I made an account and the like. This will probably be a long post, so I'm sorry for the inconvenience
--Let me start of by giving you a little back story on this whole thing. I met this girl, Elizabeth, about three months ago at a party. We hit it off good for the few hours I was there, and we had an instant connection. We talked for two months or so before I finally got the nerve to ask her out. I was very cheesy with it, but very romantic about it. We were practically dating for a month and a half before this as well.
--After about a month of a great relationship, we hit a little speed bump. She wanted to break up due to "No feelings for me anymore." Which I completely understood, and I somehow managed to win her back. After that it was still a little rough, but we managed and we were getting back on track when she told me she had feelings for somebody else, but not the feelings she had for me. The feelings for this other guy weren't mutual, and they only existed because he was "Hard to get." I contacted a couple of my previous ex's (Yes, very good resources if you keep them as friends) and they all said that it happens and to keep moving on with her, so I did.
--So this is where all of the drama in my story comes in. Me and a buddy of mine went to a party and we ran into her, with that other guy. I of course, as her boyfriend got mad and started to ignore her. She wanted to talk to me about it, but I kept ignoring her so the she left with two other guys. One of them being a good friend of mine who has helped me through this a little bit. Me and my buddy that I went to the party with left to go to another party, and just so happens it was the same party they were going to.
--I fell in and started talking to her, because I just care and I want(ed?) to be with her and would do anything for this. She walked away and her sister started sticking up for me asking if she was going to fix 'this', and she just walked away.
--Next thing I know these three girls come up and talk to me about my girlfriend following "THAT" guy. I told them I trusted her and that she wouldn't do anything with him, and if she did it was her loss. They went and started talking to the guy, and told him I was mouthing off to him. This started a lot of drama as half of the party, including the host, are related to him. I went up, being the bigger man, and apologized for any miscommunication that happened and that I was not mouthing off. He said whatever and we both got on equal terms.
--After all of this happened I got word that Elizabeth (mygirlfriend) was sitting in an abandoned vehicle crying. I, in my drunken stooper, wouldn't leave her alone and started confessing all my feelings for her. She ended up breaking up with me, and we left. Shortly after we left the party got busted and she got an underage, and she was on probation so she is in deep trouble.
--Well we some how managed to work through that, for a few days. Then out of no where she started acting weird and I was asking what was wrong and she started to blame all that happened that night, her underage and possible JDC time, on me. I got mad, this was the only time she ever made me mad by the way, and I broke up with her and told her to "***** off, I don't want to talk to you." And she told me she wasn't going to ever talk to me again.
--Well the next day she texted me saying "I wore your necklace and sweatshirt all day, and slept with your teddy bear." I didn't show any signs of emotions and ignored it. She kept showing signs of wanting to get back together, but saying she couldn't and all of this and that if she saw me she would fall for me again. Then about four days after this initially started (Me breaking up with her) she deleted my number, unadded me on facebook and unfollowed me on twitter. Her tweets the next few days consisted of, "Baby you amaze me #hardtoget" and all of this. I of course got jealous, but did not text her and haven't texted her since this has happened, which was about a week ago.

I had a dream about her last night, she was running from me and I kept chasing her, and I don't know what that means. I want to apologize and try and get her back because she means a lot to me and well... I love her.

Thanks - Drewski

Well based on what you have written I am assuming you are in your late teens early twenty's. I'm a bit older know and I have through quite a bit when it comes to dating, thinking it's love etc. First of all, any person who supposedly cares for you should not cause you so much distress. If she said she was losing feelings for you and is obviously into this other dude within a month or two of dating? Ridiculous! I hate too tell you but she knew you were into her and I'm sure was loving the attention. Then Mr. Hard to get showed her some attention and off she ran... The chick is on probation? For what? Sounds like a never ending immature drama fest. Run as fast you can. All relationships need to go through a 90 day trial before you can consider that it may last. This is true of any age group. Most people put on the show for about 6 weeks and then there true colors start to show. Remember the 90 day rule. It always applies. Keep looking and save your romance for someone more derserving.

[Open Eyes]

Wow, interesting advice from Sheba here, something to think seriously about.

Now, take some time and reread your post of events. And I will tell you what I see, the relationship is all about what "SHE" wants and let me tell you, THAT IS A BIG RED FLAG THAT SAYS, "MISERY".

Relationships that work, are rewarding and LAST are not "ALL ABOUT ONE" it has to be a WE deal otherwise it will be nothing but a "DEAL BREAKER".

Learn from this, and MOVE ON. Be careful what you ask for, you may just get it and realize it isn't what you EVER WANTED REALLY. Go over in your mind what you experienced with this girl thus far, and be honest with yourself, really look. Don't waste your love on someone who doesn't really LOVE you BACK. And don't blame yourself for this either, she is what she is and you have to be willing to see what she is.

Another Red Flag is that she BLAMED YOU for her suspension and that is also a BIG SIGN of "MISERY" ahead. "RUN"

Open Eyes