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Mar 25, 2012, 01:15 AM
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I don't know how to feel. I have a bunch of friends I used to hang out with a lot at one post-secondary. Within the last two years, I went through a lot of changes in my life. Starting September 2010 to January 2011, I switched to another school and went through a big crashing in all aspects of my life.
January 2011 to December 2011, I took a leave from school and used that year to try to regain myself. Trying to take one day at a time. Now, from January 2012 to today, I have returned back to school and I find I'm still struggling but things are more tolerable now. I found out that my room mate is hanging out with my friends at my original first post-secondary online every now ever since I introduced her to them on Steam in October of last year. She jokes around with them, plays games with them online and everything. When she retells me the events that happened between her and the gang, it makes me feel really jealous, angry and then just... depressed. They don't talk to me often anymore. I tried to talk to them online but most of the time they just don't respond. When she talks to them, they respond immediately with excitement and news about their life. They talk for hours and hours on end. It makes me feel really bad and stupid and lame. All rolled into a big fat ****ing blob. I usually don't have time because of school (full-time), projects, my part-time jobs, appointments I have with my family and for those times I feel super depressed or suicidal. My room mate doesn't have a job and doesn't go to school. She's been unemployed since last year in June. Her parents is our landlord so she's pretty stocked in the rent/food department. I tried setting up days to hang out with them. Last spring break, I tried making a hang out day but it was too last moment and I was booked more shifts from both jobs I have. Last winter break, I made a hang out day for everyone too but I got pneumonia so everyone went but me.  I want to have friends. I feel like at the school I am now, it's hard to make friends because everyone is so competitive and that within itself overwhelms me. I just don't know what to do. How to feel. It's like, no matter how hard I try... I won't be enough. |
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Mar 26, 2012, 10:50 AM
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You made those friends in the first place; you are able to make friends! Do it again with those whose interests and life are more similar to what you are doing now and want for your future!
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Mar 26, 2012, 03:30 PM
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I agree with the comments above...it sounds like it's a "virtual" life with "virtual" friendships. We grow out of those. If we don't, we don't really make "real" friends.
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Mar 28, 2012, 10:52 PM
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We had a career day thing lately and professionals from our field we're studying started talking about us as soon future grads and workers. I can't see myself in the future. I can see myself sleeping. Or dead. Do you think my friends stop talking to me because I've been depressed for so long? |
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Mar 29, 2012, 01:38 PM
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You had a great time together when you had time (and interest) in just sitting around and playing games! You do not have that kind of time now so cannot afford to maintain that kind of friendship. A "true" friend does not treat you as they are and they, themselves (the true friend) is moving on too after young adulthood. That they are still in the game-playing mindset, you don't want to afford that for yourself! Just be yourself and available for when they catch up to you, if you like; but what you are wanting in not wanting to let them go is the past and your past lifestyle and you don't have that anymore and it would not be "the same".
I still have two friends from when we were 16/17 (we're now 61-62) but the relationship, the friendship has to continue to grow and change as well as the people! You do not have either of those things happening with these former friends. It is very sad but it is not your "roommate" that is taking your friends away, your friends are not growing forward as you are.
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Mar 29, 2012, 02:35 PM
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With friends like that huh?
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Mar 29, 2012, 08:37 PM
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Mar 29, 2012, 09:53 PM
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Re: My Roommate taking away my friends
I posted in your other thread. And wow, my husband came home and I went back to the forums and clicked on this thinking it was the thread I posted in and thought I lost my post. Oh, didn't know you had two threads going with the same heading. Open Eyes |
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Mar 30, 2012, 01:12 AM
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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