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Old Mar 29, 2012, 08:09 PM
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How do I tell someone how I am feeling?

And Im not talking about telling someone that I like him, he already knows.

Its just that Ive been distancing myself from him, all of sudden, and I no longer know how to tell him how I feel.

Mostly because I dont know how Im feeling.

How do I find a way to;
i) figure out I feel?
ii) tell him how I feel?

Any ideas?

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Old Mar 30, 2012, 03:10 AM
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Don't know about 1 but when you get to do 2 I suggest grabbing this person, telling him/her you want a quiet word, drag them away before they get a chance to object. Then when you're in the quiet place take a deep breath and go like a train before s/he can stop you.
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Old Mar 30, 2012, 02:03 PM
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Don't know about 1 but when you get to do 2 I suggest grabbing this person, telling him/her you want a quiet word, drag them away before they get a chance to object. Then when you're in the quiet place take a deep breath and go like a train before s/he can stop you.
Good idea, but how can I tell someone how I feel if I dont even know how I feel myself? :'(
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Old Mar 30, 2012, 02:32 PM
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Until you do you can't say anything I'm afraid
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"We're human beings!...
There's a time when the operation of the machine becomes so odious—makes you so sick at heart—that you can't take part. You can't even passively take part.
And you've got to put your bodies upon the gears and upon the wheels, upon the levers, upon all the apparatus, and you've got to make it stop.
And you've got to indicate to the people who run it, to the people who own it, that unless you're free, the machine will be prevented from working at all."

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Old Mar 30, 2012, 02:33 PM
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Until you do you can't say anything I'm afraid
Oh no! I havent talked to my friend in about three days. I dont know what to say

We are so distant right now, its bothering me.
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Old Mar 31, 2012, 02:53 PM
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That's not the method I had in mind

I'm afraid I don't know what to suggest, so I'm bumping it so someone else can help
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"We're human beings!...
There's a time when the operation of the machine becomes so odious—makes you so sick at heart—that you can't take part. You can't even passively take part.
And you've got to put your bodies upon the gears and upon the wheels, upon the levers, upon all the apparatus, and you've got to make it stop.
And you've got to indicate to the people who run it, to the people who own it, that unless you're free, the machine will be prevented from working at all."

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Old Mar 31, 2012, 03:11 PM
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That's not the method I had in mind

I'm afraid I don't know what to suggest, so I'm bumping it so someone else can help
Okay, thanks anyway
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Old Apr 01, 2012, 10:54 PM
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Take time for yourself until you come to a realization. The other person cannot help you determine how you really feel...it is actually the absence of someone that will make you realize your true emotions. Their absence will help you see whether you truly like them, or whether you can move on without them. At the very least, time will help you figure out what you'll want to say to him when the time is right..
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Old Apr 02, 2012, 07:18 PM
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Take time for yourself until you come to a realization. The other person cannot help you determine how you really feel...it is actually the absence of someone that will make you realize your true emotions. Their absence will help you see whether you truly like them, or whether you can move on without them. At the very least, time will help you figure out what you'll want to say to him when the time is right..
Well him and I took a four day break, but we never told each other that we were gonna take a break from each other. The break would be defined as him ignoring me for four days. And he texted me yesterday. And we breifly talked. I realized that Im still distancing myself from him. I do like him, its just that I dont know what to say to him

It bothers me that I dont know how to tell him how I feel. Ive known for seven months and I never a problem telling him how I felt before. And I sense another break because Im still distancing myself from him, I dont know what to say to him
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Old Apr 03, 2012, 10:38 PM
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You have feelings and they are just confused..there is nothing wrong with that. It is normal to stay away, whether it's him or you. As much as it feels right to rush into a conversation before both of you are ready, it's not... it can only ruin things or at the very least set things back a whole heck of a lot.

If you two aren't dating/in a relationship, there is no need for either of you to tell the other that you want/are taking a break. There is no responsibility on either of you to share that with the other person.
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Old Apr 05, 2012, 05:58 PM
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You have feelings and they are just confused..there is nothing wrong with that. It is normal to stay away, whether it's him or you. As much as it feels right to rush into a conversation before both of you are ready, it's not... it can only ruin things or at the very least set things back a whole heck of a lot.

If you two aren't dating/in a relationship, there is no need for either of you to tell the other that you want/are taking a break. There is no responsibility on either of you to share that with the other person.
Yeah, at times, I force converations to happen, because I really want to talk to him. Yeah that has caused arguments to happen

And no we arent dating. But he is the one that decides if we go on a break, because hes the one that ignores my messages, for a couple of days.
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Old May 28, 2012, 10:49 PM
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Hey Panda Girl, I think this can relate to what I posted in response to your 'Love Triangle' post. I hope you read this, I wish I read this sooner.
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