[essexgirl]

Hi everyone, i'm from London. Im a young girl
and am a teenager. Can you tell me how old you think i look?

i feel ugly and depressed and wanna find a boyfriend
but feel too sad about the way i look.

http://s1182.photobucket.com/albums/...t=homebalc.jpg

Originally Posted by essexgirl

Hi everyone, i'm from London. Im a young girl
and am a teenager. Can you tell me how old you think i look?

i feel ugly and depressed and wanna find a boyfriend
but feel too sad about the way i look.

http://s1182.photobucket.com/albums/...t=homebalc.jpg

Essexgirl, Rose here. Just checking in. Did something in particular happen that triggered your feelings?

Please speak with a T, feel good about you, work on yourself and your self esteem - the boys will flock to you

You look fine to me

I think you look fine. But really, a million people could tell you that you look great and that wouldn't change much. The important thing is that YOU have to be happy with how you look.

I agree with Rose, that working with a therapist on your self-esteem can be very beneficial.

[Leed]

Hi my friend ~ I think we ALL feel like that at one time or another. No one is ever satisfied with the way they look. Actually, we're JUST FINE the way we are. I used to change my hairdo once in awhile, or perhaps put some blonde streaks in it. (not TOO blonde) Or I'd buy a new outfit and that would make me feel better. Sometimes just some little changes makes a BIG difference.

Sweetie, you're not ugly. You DO look sad. How about talking to your doctor -- perhaps he can recommend a good therapist for you to talk to? If you can't afford that, see if he knows of some options. Depression is awful. Have you been depressed long? I know alot about depression, as I was depressed even as a child -- and have been on medication all of my life.

Have a talk with your doctor, ok? And let me know what happens. God bless you . Talk to you soon, I hope. Hugs, Lee

[essexgirl]

thanks everyone for your replies.

i just worry too much that i look old.

[lido78]

I have no idea how old you are, but you look like a normal teenage girl to me. You don't need to change a thing. But, whenever I feel unattractive (we're women and, unfortunately, a lot of us look in the mirror any only see the flaws), I do treat myself to a little pampering. I'm not sure what your resources are, but I definitely love to get a manicure from time to time as well as try out new makeup and hairstyles...You have amazing blue eyes...maybe a tiny bit of mascara and some nice neutral lip gloss and that's all a young girl like you needs...If you want a boyfriend, please realize that almost all the men/boys worth dating prefer women/girls who are confident and happy with who they are...so, if you're seeing a therapist, just worry about working on the inside for now...

[SmokeyPoole2012]

If you're not feeling pretty Essex why not treat yourself to a make over.

I'm not a female but I know a lot of them. It's what I would suggest to my daughters.

Learning to love oneself, inside and out. I think this is something most people go through at some point.

I've struggled with an eating disorder most of my life. The one thing that is really helping me is yoga. I didn't expect it would help like it has. The mind body connection is powerful. Do you have something like that you could give a try. Even on YouTube or websites? Pampering helps a bit, and can help us in transition, but it's a temporary fix.

I avoid media, and things of that nature because of my eating disorder and self perception problems, that in itself helps a ton. I don't need it to be in my face or head constantly.

You don't look old to me, not at all. You have that youthful glow and beautiful eyes. Try to take pride in your uniqueness. None of us look alike and that's special. I always used to worry that I had a big nose, it's not that big but it really got to me, but you know, it's my nose, no one else has it, it gives me my unique look and now I'm just going to embrace that. Same with my teeth, they are a bit crooked and one was chipped in the center, a body piercer once said " hey you've got really cool teeth, love the chip... Adds character" haha seriously, unusual maybe but I took her compliment an ran with it. I did get the chip fixed a few years later, but I took what she said and applied it.

When someone does give you a compliment. Try to accept it. We get into a habit of disbelieving. Try to believe it. When someone says, " hey you have beautiful eyes" later at some point go look at your eyes in a mirror, notice the unique shape, colour, life in them. You might be able to agree even " yup I got beautiful eyes! "

Just wanted to add too, the things about my face or body that I see as flaws are the exact things that my boyfriend loves and is drawn too. You just don't know. We don't see ourselves as others see us.

[bowhunt72]

I don't see anything wrong with the way you look. I think Anika and some of the others are right, it's the way you see yourself that's hurting you, not the way you look. Are you able to work with a therapist? They may be able to help you with issues of self esteem. My self esteem is terrible, it's something I have to work on, but I'm lucky enough that my body image isn't part of it. I'm just your average (ignorant) guy, but some of the ladies here may be able to help you with ideas for some of the "little things" like hair or makeup if you need to feel that you are doing something outwardly too. I think the best change you can make is inside yourself. Best of luck.

[essexgirl]

thanks everyone i appreciate all of your comments.

I agree with people i should see a therapist and work from within
first as i need to raise my confidence. i made my album private so thank
you guys. . your amazing. xxx