[gnomy476]

So, ive been in bad relationships before, especially one. I didnt wanna date this boy because i had broken up with one of my ex's and i was still hurt and heartbroken. Anyway, this boy who was older than me insisted i give him a chance and he kept asking me until i said yes. He was nice at first but then again, i was too trusting and too naive. I didnt see the signs. He was bossy and demanding and he wanted me to be like his little puppy rather than his girlfriend. He would also talk about the first girl he ever dated and he would stuff like how he regretted breaking up with her and how stupid he was. Anyway, he would also check out other girls and i think he was flirty too. I found out he was cheating on me with a younger girl and he said he didnt wanna be with me because we argued a lot (he started the arguments and would play the victim then). I was heartbroken but i managed to get over it. I guess deep down, i knew we wouldnt last. Anyway, a few months after, i was talking to people on this chatroom when i met the guy who's my current boyfriend. I dont know how it even happenes, but i was attracted to him since the first day we started talking. He had gotten out of a relationship and was hurt. We talked every day since until he asked me to date him a few months ago. He didnt want to be in a relationship at first because he was afraid it would lead to a heartbreak but we eventualy fell in love and he said he would be an idiot if he let me go. Before we started dating, he used to be flirty with girls. He would compliment them and called them beautiful or gorgeous and sometimes he would make sexual implications like "dont have too much fun alone" etc. i know this because he gave me his FB password and he knows mine. I told him i didnt want any secrets between us and i ernt through his messages (he doesnt know that, though). Anyway, the flirting stopped and he'a proved to me he truly loves me. For my birthday he sent me a cute garnet bracelet and wrote me a letter. For valentines day, he sent me a teddy bear, one of his shirts and one of his most cherished rings and a bouquet of peruvian lilies. We text 24/7 and cam and talk on the phone whenever the opportunity presents itself. However, my last relationship screwed me over. I used to be trusting but now im paranoid. Whenever he takes an over an hr to text me back, i keep thinking hes ignoring me and texting another girl. Or when he's on FB or on the computer, i keep thinking he's flirting with girls. Even when hes in school. And my assumptions have proved wrog more than 50% of the time. Sometimes he'a busy with chores or soing homework or at family meetings. This is a long distance relationship and i know in my heart, this is the boy i want to spend my life with. And i trust him but my paranoia is getting in the way. He doesnt know im paranoid about him. He told me he was paranoid too, but not as much as me. What can i do to overcome my paranoia? I dont want the after-effects of my last relationship to ruin the one i currently have. Help!!

[Perna]

Start trusting what you are learning (that your assumptions are wrong more than 50% of the time) and make less assumptions? You have to trust yourself or you'll drive yourself crazy!