Okay.... feel like I'm standing in front of a 12 step meeting....

My husband is addicted to porn. I found out because he decided to tell me. He had been "trying hard" to stop for a couple of years. He told me after coming back from a mens retreat with our church...

If anyone else is in a similar situation, I would love to be able to talk to you.

[Tonnieg]

I dont have any advise for you..Im sorry that you are going through this though. Good Luck to you

[Sunflower0440]

I kind of know what you are going through, I'm going through one of the hardest times in my life right now. Therapy is your best bet to help him with his addiction. good luck

[Harley47]

Hi Ready...I hope I can offer some input.

Firstly, I am sorry this has happened to you. I know this must be painful. But at the very least he did decide to tell you. That doesn't make it okay by any means, but I think that indicates that what he knows what he's doing is wrong and is making an honest effort to stop.

That being said, it can and is an effort. It's not uncommon among men to start looking at porn at a young age, typically around puberty. "Quitting" entirely takes a tremendous amount of discipline and self control. It can be very easy to "drift" while online, until that initial google search for whathaveyou becomes a stop at a porn site. This isn't necessarily a matter of him wanting more sexually or infidelity or etc, it is an addiction.

I will keep you both in my prayers. I would offer, though I'm not in exactly the same situation as you, that you can feel free to send me a PM if I can be of some help.

[roads]

Here's a link that will at least give you some place to start looking at options: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/inte...ion.htm#online

Check the Resources and References tab. This whole site may be of some use, but start with these links and see how it goes.

Roadie

[Rob1210]

I had a similar addiction in my late teens, early twenties. I had a massive collection of porn dvds, I bought magazines, I was phoning the premium rate numbers. I was constantly browsing the internet. I was always popping off to find more. I started getting bored with 'regular' porn and found myself looking at other types to get my fix. I didn't crave attention off anyone, I just wanted to watch videos of others having sex, in any form.

Luckily for me I managed to go 'cold turkey', threw away all dvds, mags etc, forced myself to stay off internet porn. Now I can watch it now and again without feeling compelled to it.
I hope your husband manages to help himself before he loses sight of what is truly important, you.

[ColorRed]

Hi Readytostop – I'm so glad you've been willing to share about your husband's struggle with addiction to porn. I realize how painful this must be for you, but I do want to encourage you to hold on to hope that you and your husband can work through this. It sounds like he really wants to overcome this, and that is such a huge first step. I've had an opportunity to work with Focus on the Family and know that the counselors there are available to help you get started on the road to healing. If you'd like to talk with one of them for free, the number is 855-771-HELP (4357). You might also find it helpful to check out the PureIntimacy.org website and the books, Breaking Free, by Russell Willingham, and False Intimacy, by Harry W. Schaumburg. Just realize that in all of this, you're not alone –I'll be praying for you…

[Scotty204]

Well at least he told you so that counts for something....Like any other addiction he needs help and to stop cold turkey. This seems to be a big problem among marriages these days it would seem....

Sex Addicts Anonymous for him ...

I know there is a group called Al Anon for people who are in relationships with alcoholics ...

I don't know if there is a similar group for those in a relationship with sex addicts ...

However, if you can find a support group of that nature for yourself it will be of tremendous help to you ...

Good Luck & Best Wishes ...