Oh gosh. I like her boyriend ;-;

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 12:55 AM

This is sooooo cliche, and mean..But theres this guy.
Lets Call him...CL. Oh gosh. Hes soo cute... and funny..and intelligent. And im wearing his beanie as I type. He hugs me all sweet, and initiates conversation at schoool and cant seem to stop being like..right there.
BUUUT. He has this girlfriend..
Her Names B. >.< they fight a lot. They broke up, because he couldnt trust her..
but got back together. Shes the jealous type..
But...Heres the thing. I have his hat. He doesnt even let HER take his hat, and hes letting me.
ME. I like him..he's adorable..but the girlfriend...it just nags at me :/ What do you guys think..
?

Apr 26, 2012, 01:11 AM

Well, I think I he has a girlfriend then he is off limits, unless he or she or they together decide to call it quits.

You mention her negative traits, there is usually two sides to every story. So I would try not to bash her too much. Its easy to do as an outsider looking in. But it can be a whole other story between the two in the relationship. An example might be that she could possibly feel that she has a boyfriend who flirts with other girls, lends them his hat and what not. Maybe she isn't just the " jealous type", possibly she has a reason to be jealous?

Honestly I'd try to stay out of it till they decide that it's over.

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 01:13 AM

You're right

i didnt even see it like that >.<
Blaah. Okay. Ill stop being all..flirty with him ~

bipolarmedstudent · Apr 26, 2012, 01:26 AM

Give back his hat. This guy is emotionally cheating with you. And if he's willing to cheat with you, he's willing to cheat on you. This guy is no prize.

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 01:50 AM

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Give back his hat. This guy is emotionally cheating with you. And if he's willing to cheat with you, he's willing to cheat on you. This guy is no prize.

emotionally cheating?

Alcinus_of_chell · Apr 26, 2012, 02:03 AM

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emotionally cheating?

It a slang term the regular posters in this section of the forum (and on some outher parts of the web) have for someone who likes in any way someone of the opposite gender when they are in a relationship.
I think it's B*llsh*t and so do quite a few others I've seen.

On topic-My advice to you is best summed up by an old cliche, 'All's fair in love and war'

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And if he's willing to cheat with you, he's willing to cheat on you.

That's like saying 'If he's willing to break up with her he's willing to break up with you' or 'If he's willing to divorce her he's willing to divorce you'
In some case probably true, but in most cases apples and oranges.

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 02:11 AM

Ohhh :/
He seems like a Nice kid. I mean its not like hes... making out with me and stuff. Just like, we'll walk to class. and He'll put his arm on my shoulders and ish, and When we like...wrestled for the hat , he did that little like...hug me from behind thing >.<

He seems loyal though... His girlfriend cheated on him (Kissed a guy while smoking...even when she told him she wouldnt do that anymore)
and he hasnt done anything.. :/
I dont wanna be a homewrecker...but i really wanna be a homewrecker D;

bipolarmedstudent · Apr 26, 2012, 02:14 AM

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Ohhh :/
He seems like a Nice kid. I mean its not like hes... making out with me and stuff. Just like, we'll walk to class. and He'll put his arm on my shoulders and ish, and When we like...wrestled for the hat , he did that little like...hug me from behind thing >.<

He seems loyal though... His girlfriend cheated on him (Kissed a guy while smoking...even when she told him she wouldnt do that anymore)
and he hasnt done anything.. :/
I dont wanna be a homewrecker...but i really wanna be a homewrecker D;

How would you feel if he was your boyfriend and he was acting this way with another girl? Would you be okay with it?

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 02:17 AM

I guess not :/ I'd feel pretty...blah.

Alcinus_of_chell · Apr 26, 2012, 02:18 AM

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Ohhh :/
He seems like a Nice kid. I mean its not like hes... making out with me and stuff. Just like, we'll walk to class. and He'll put his arm on my shoulders and ish, and When we like...wrestled for the hat , he did that little like...hug me from behind thing >.<

He seems loyal though... His girlfriend cheated on him (Kissed a guy while smoking...even when she told him she wouldnt do that anymore)
and he hasnt done anything.. :/

He likes you, she cheated on him, sounds like it's over to me.

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I dont wanna be a homewrecker...but i really wanna be a homewrecker D;

Good for you! Show's you got morals I don't, but if the relationships over and marking time, you aren't breaking it up.

Alcinus_of_chell · Apr 26, 2012, 02:19 AM

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I guess not :/ I'd feel pretty...blah.

But would you cheat on him first?

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 02:24 AM

I think maybe im getting attached to him... Me and my Best friend just broke up a while ago..we were gonna date again, but decided not to because of distance and communication issues

I think I See CL as like..a distraction?

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 02:28 AM

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But would you cheat on him first?

Nooo.I've been cheated on. It suuuucks. Not a cheater :/

A flirt. But never cheat.

Alcinus_of_chell · Apr 26, 2012, 02:36 AM

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Nooo.I've been cheated on. It suuuucks. Not a cheater :/

A flirt. But never cheat.

So you'll never be in the same position his girlfriend is in now, apples and oranges again.

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 02:45 AM

Thats a good thing, right?

Alcinus_of_chell · Apr 26, 2012, 02:49 AM

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Thats a good thing, right?

Yeah!
What ever effect her cheating had on the realtionship it can't have been good.

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 02:53 AM

Ohhh. :3

so... should I go for it?
they seem fine right now :?

Alcinus_of_chell · Apr 26, 2012, 02:58 AM

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Ohhh. :3

so... should I go for it?

Yeah!

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they seem fine right now :?

If he's flirting with you they're not fine.

Rob1210 · Apr 26, 2012, 10:14 AM

If I were you I'd ignore everything the guy above is saying. Regardless of where their relationship is, its NEVER a good idea to break someone up, emotionally or morally. The principle of 'if he'll cheat on her he can cheat on you' can be true. Likening it to divorcing someone is bollocks, as with splitting up, there's no deception. Both parties know where they stand.
If he feels the same about you as you do about him, why hasn't he called it a day with her? Sounds like he's having his cake and eying it at the moment. Getting the best of both worlds. I'd ask him outright how he feels, but don't do anything behind her back.

Trippin2.0 · Apr 26, 2012, 10:35 AM

Put yourself in the gf's shoes... Would you be ok with someone else persuing your bf?

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 03:08 PM

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If I were you I'd ignore everything the guy above is saying. Regardless of where their relationship is, its NEVER a good idea to break someone up, emotionally or morally. The principle of 'if he'll cheat on her he can cheat on you' can be true. Likening it to divorcing someone is bollocks, as with splitting up, there's no deception. Both parties know where they stand.
If he feels the same about you as you do about him, why hasn't he called it a day with her? Sounds like he's having his cake and eying it at the moment. Getting the best of both worlds. I'd ask him outright how he feels, but don't do anything behind her back.

How do I ask him though..What if he's like 'Whaaaat? I was just being your friend.' And like..stops talking to me completely.

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Put yourself in the gf's shoes... Would you be ok with someone else persuing your bf?

No...I probably wouldnt be :{

Trippin2.0 · Apr 26, 2012, 05:24 PM

Well, then there you have your answer

Rob1210 · Apr 26, 2012, 06:09 PM

Can't hurt to ask. At least you know one way or the other

testingxtension · Apr 26, 2012, 08:57 PM

You guys are right...
I'll ask and seewhats up ~

Alcinus_of_chell · Apr 26, 2012, 11:50 PM

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If I were you I'd ignore everything the guy above is saying.

I'd say the same about you, but I'm going to be honest and say that just because I say 'yes' and you say 'no' doesn't mean she should ignore everything you say
If you don't think the advise I'm giving is good, give different advice, but if you're going to disagree with something I said that isn't advice, like so

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That's like saying 'If he's willing to break up with her he's willing to break up with you' or 'If he's willing to divorce her he's willing to divorce you'
In some case probably true, but in most cases apples and oranges.

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The principle of 'if he'll cheat on her he can cheat on you' can be true. Likening it to divorcing someone is bollocks, as with splitting up, there's no deception. Both parties know where they stand.

Address it to me.

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