whats the longest you have ever been single?

mine has been for 2 years and just come out of an abusive 4 month relationship, so im back on the shelf again :-/

fml

20 years, but that was from birth to the time I got married...

But after 28 years of marriage I'm "back on the shelf" as you put it.....

how are you finding the single life?

My whole life (52 years) ... But I didn't "escape" my childhood home until I was 33.5 ... So, technically I guess we could say I've been single for 18.5 years? ... Awww, hell, whom am I kidding? ... I guess I'll just have to say my whole damn life ... From the looks of it, I will be for the rest of it too ...

But, that's okay, I've experienced a lot of worse things than being single (and alone), and even though I don't particularly like it all the time, most times I appreciate it immensely ... Nothing like that sweet peace & quiet when I walk through the door at the end of the day with no unexpected and unpleasant surprises awaiting me on the other side ...

i totally understand where you are coming from pfrog!
however i would like a companion - even if not a live in one.
i suffer so much from being lonely

I totally get that ... The times I do feel lonely can be heavy to bear ... Hope you find someone (who'll treat ya right) soon ...

Since January '09. I was seeing someone casually or rather sporadically (sometimes we wouldn't see eachother for months at a time) on and off from September '09 till October '11. I'm back on the shelf, and this time it's for good

for 19 years... now i'm 20 and single again. I wish I stayed single.. life was so much better.. and now i just feel weak.

For 6 LONG YEARS ...... UGH !!!!

For me, it was about 5 years after I reached an age when I felt I was old and mature enough to start REALLY dating. I had a couple "boyfriends" in high school, but they were mostly crushes. Never had an intimate relationship with them. So, from the time that I gave myself entirely to another person to now, I went once for 5 years without a partner or the implied perquisites that come with that. Yah, THAT was a little slice of heaven, really.

But, I did feel that based on my poor decisions that I OBVIOUSLY had not been ready to seriously commit to that kind of relationship and took my time to enjoy being single, even if that meant I wouldn't be "dancing in the sheets." Glad I waited, because I could have made A LOT more terrible decisions before I was 25. Heck, I even went so far as to dodge 2 marriage proposals. Again, glad I did. Sometimes, being on your own is a good thing. Even if you are lonely, you can make yourself happy and learn who you are as a person and what you need from life. Cause after all, how can we possibly make another human being happy if we can't do so for ourselves?

Though I'm engaged, I say, ROCK ON MY SINGLE PEOPLES!

3 years and 1 month (as of yesterday) is the longest period of time I've been out of a committed relationship.

The first three years +, I was grieving terribly and time was just slipping away. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else - ever.

It is just in the past week that I've actually felt an attraction to someone.

It's weird.

I don't have any plans on acting on it. But it's nice to actually feel something.

(before that, it was 20 years - my very first real bf )

My whole life.

It depends on what you mean by 'single'...

If we define it as not being in a committed relationship since the time one started becoming romantically involved with others, then for me it would be the last 6 years. I am 28 years old, and have had two serious relationships (2 years, and then another one for around 1 year). But I have had a ton of dates, casual partners, etc... but let me tell you that I don't do that stuff like I used to because I am looking for the real thing the last couple of years, and it totally sucks how lonely I really am.

I hope my sadness lifts your spirits.
If it does say so! It would make me less sad!
(Be honest though)

I'm in my late 20's,
I've only had short "kinda getting close" to being relationships.
But they all fail within a month lol. So my answer is "NEVER"

I've had a hell of a time with it to be honest, and yes.
I feel very very lonely at times too. I can relate to feelings that you probably didn't mention. Feelings that arise from seeing some of your friends find someone that they've been with for 2-3 years, friends that have had a few relationships, etc.

Think about this though, you got out of an abusive relationship that was only 4 months long. Imagine if you had been in that abusive relationship for 2 years? You did well by not even being in it for half a year, give yourself credit for that one.

You made a great decision by getting out of that abusive relationship.
Being single is better than dealing with that. Probably doesn't seem that way, but think about the bad moments of that relationship.

I know it's hard, but still... you did the right thing.