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May 22, 2012, 10:23 PM
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I dont even want to care anymore.
but I do. So what are some ways for making & keeping good friends? Last edited by insideout; May 22, 2012 at 10:41 PM. |
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May 22, 2012, 11:18 PM
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I guess I'm curious what your current situation is. Do you have friendships currently that aren't good? No friendships? Are you just looking to improve what you already have? Are there places you can met friends (work, hobbies, school, etc...) Again, not sure at all what your situation is.
But in a general sense I would say that who you pick is important. I luckily have learned to have a pretty good BS detector and steer clear of people that don't seem "safe" to me. Once I have found people I think are emotionally safe, I try to be a good listener and also to share things with them. I think friendships require some risk taking and sharing of personal things, which hopefully will build trust on both sides. I'm rambling, not sure if this answers your question at all... But I'm happy to continue the conversation if you like. 
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May 22, 2012, 11:42 PM
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I have 0 friends in real life. I mean that literally.
My BS meter is broken or never existed because I am always the last one to know I am being insulted. |
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May 22, 2012, 11:45 PM
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I had friends when I was a teenager and a kid, just a handful of close friends, which was great.
I havent had a best friend in a long time and I dont even have casual friends due to the fact I dont go to bars anymore. If people are trying to be my friend, I think they give up too soon cuz I am really shy at first. If they give me a chance, I think they would like me, like my old friends have. I have a REALLY hard time trusting, but still need friends. What do I do?! |
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May 22, 2012, 11:53 PM
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Hmmmm, I don't have any easy answers. I suppose the trick would be to find a place to possibly meet some friends. Maybe through work, the gym, mutual interest groups?? I'm sorry for your situation, but do think that knowing you want friends is really good. I think if you work at it you can find some. I hope so at least.
One last thought, have you considered joining some kind of support group? While it's not necessarily "friends" in the typical sense it is support. There are many options in most communities.
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May 23, 2012, 12:13 AM
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Hmm...I don't personally have much advice, but I've heard it offered a few times that a good way to meet people is to hang out at social places, such as a coffee shop, and simply try to make small talk. Things usually develop from there.
Do you have any coworkers or classmates? Those are usually good places to meet people. You just have to get past the "professional barrier" to meet the person underneath (ie breaking past the superficial "How are you?" conversations to substantial conversations). All in all, it's about being yourself and being available to meet people. Shy or not, simply sending a friendly "vibe" is often enough.
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The world suffers alot. Not because of the violence of bad people, but because of the silence of good people.- Napoleon Bonaparte |
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May 28, 2012, 09:12 AM
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I am not always quick on my feet when it comes to talking with new people, so if u think it may be helpfuw, try practicing an introduction or what you want people to know about you when u meet them. I have some anxiety when it comes to meeting/ talking to new people.
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May 28, 2012, 09:50 PM
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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