[pendulum328]

I have caused some neg issues about trust with my wife. is there something i need to do to heal things or ask her about how things are between us at the moment. what is the best thing i can do to resolve this?

[Leed]

Can you tell us what happened to cause this? Was there cheating involved? How long have you two been married?

Building up trust can take a long time, and it can be difficult, depending on what BROKE the trust. A little more info might help us in helping YOU.

[NinaNina]

Originally Posted by pendulum328

I have caused some neg issues about trust with my wife. is there something i need to do to heal things or ask her about how things are between us at the moment. what is the best thing i can do to resolve this?

I agree with Leed in that more information may be required about what happened for good advice to be given. I am someone who is in a relationship where I have a lack of trust in my boyfriend because of things he has done, so out of experience I must tell you that as Leed said trust can be very hard to build back up, although it is good that you are willing to try. Just be aware it will likely take a long time for there to be trust again, and it is very hard to do.

[SakuraLi]

I think there are 2 main reasons why us women would not trust our partners. Speaking from my experience, what distroyed my trust in my ex had been that he`d become increasingly unreliable, uncommunicative (and the list goes on) and several years ago (before he became unreliable) he had made a horrible judgement call to "help" a lady he knew by being her date to a wedding (when I was away at college). He told me everything after the plans were set in stone, but I balked anyway and he didn`t care. Twisted logic on his part, to this day I feel he was lying to me and possibly lying to himself about why he really took her to the wedding. I asked him if she knew he had a girlfriend. He said he didn`t tell her he had a girlfriend! Y`all know what that means! But it showed a lot about who he was and I was such an fricking idiot for wanting to believe that he was just being nice to her but the fact that he was upfront about everything caused me to misplace trust in him. In my heart I knew he was full of BS. At one point, way after that incident, he literally demanded, out of nowhere, that I tell every guy I knew that I have a bf. Which I did...But my point is there are 2 main ways that your partner may distrust you. For reasons related to being unreliable and flaky or if another women comes between your relationship. If it`s the latter then I don`t see why she should trust you. Sorry to be so harsh but it`s true to me at least. But if you truely love your wife fight to regain her trust, even if it was a moment of weakness with another woman. If but I don`t want to assume that`s what it was but hopefully you get the idea. Good luck.