[mizzmalice29]

I have a friend who betrayed me with my husband. It didnt go all the way but it did go way too far. Both say sorry and it was heat of the moment type thing. I have started movning on with my husband but now she wants to talk and he wants me and her to talk and try to work out our friendship. Everyone says I shouldntgive her the time of day but those people are close to me and just dont want me to get hurt again. I dont know how to get past what she did. I trusted her and im having a hard time on what to say to her and what to even do. I love advce<3 so please tell me what you think. Lets just say it was only one time it happened and they both are genuinely sorry.

[Jenn1fer82]

Your need to be good to yourself, self compassion and self love. Don't do anything that the same people around that has hurt you, and that are suggesting for you to do. They didn't have the right intentions for you before so what are their intentions are now.
Take all the time in the world to work on what is best for you. Being around the people who has hurt you is like beating yourself and self esteem over and over again. Self doubts, self esteem begins to deteriate because you can't get the answers you want and you begin to beat yourself over it and self-blame will sink in.
This is why I say take all the time you want to help yourself heal so that you can feel better and let go of that hurt. Until you let go of that hurt being around others who has hurt will only pour salt on your wounds.
Take care of yourself first. Take all the time you need hun. You matter!!

[Leed]

Hon ~ She DID betray you -- what kind of "friend" is that? I would NOT give her the time of day. A REAL friend would NEVER do that with your husband!!! A REAL friend would NEVER even THINK of it. Why do you even WANT her in your life? Do you really think she won't do this again?

If you ask me, she wants to be friends so she can get close to your husband again. Don't let her back into your life. Keep her away.

And as far as your husband, you'd better keep a CLOSE eye on him. Once a cheat, always a cheater. Remember that HE was guilty too!! If you let this "friend" back into your life, then those two will probably get together again -- I wouldn't doubt it.

Be very careful. Keep an eye on both of them, but stay away from that "friend." Just my opinion. Hugs, Lee

[jmomb]

I had a similar experience. My best friend of 17 years slept with my fiance. They both regreted it and were truely sorry. I forgave my fiance quite fast but her on the other hand it took me over 2 years to even talk to her. When i finally chose to have her in my life again i made it loud and clear that the friendship was gonna be on my terms. She bent over backwards to make sure i was one hundred percent comfortable. My fiance hated the fact i was talking to her again but he understood it wasnt his descision. Long story short its been 8 years since it happened i couldnt be more happy with my husband and i still talk to my friend. We will never be as close as we were before and shes fully aware of that and ok with it. Hope everything works out for you and remember everything should be done on your terms!

Hope this helps

[NinaNina]

Thats definitely a tough situtation, and I'm so sorry this happened to you. The decision is ultimately yours, but if it were me, I really don't think I could continue to be friends with someone who did that to me. I wish you all the best