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Jun 19, 2012, 08:54 AM
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A friend of mine text me this morning...she uses a local online dating site and saw that my bf has a profile on there. I knew he used the site before we met, but its still up, says hes single and that hes been online this week. This really upset me. I sent him a text just asking if he still uses it, which he hasn't replied to yet.
Am I justified being upset?
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Jun 19, 2012, 09:01 AM
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Absolutely you're justified with being upset. You should see for yourself though and not rely totally on what the friend said. Sorry this is happening to you.
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Jun 19, 2012, 09:04 AM
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 Thanks.
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Jun 19, 2012, 09:58 AM
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You dont really supply enough info in your OP and I havent read the rest of the thread
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Jun 19, 2012, 10:05 AM
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Jun 19, 2012, 10:22 AM
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He just answered saying he went on to try and delete it from his phone so he stopped getting the emails from the site, and that he was sorry and should have told me that. Probably just me worrying for nothing once again
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Jun 19, 2012, 11:32 AM
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If it has been up all that time and he's been dating you for 8 months, I would be happy rather than worried; think of it this way, he's had "opportunity" but you are better than all that! He didn't think to delete it because he was only thinking of you and didn't "remember" it other than as a nuisance email generator.
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Jun 19, 2012, 11:53 AM
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Jun 20, 2012, 06:13 AM
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I totally agree with Perna....after my b.f. and I started dating a few years back I didn't take down my profile for several months because I totally forgot about it...his was up longer than mine and when I asked him about it, he said he'd made some friends that he occasionally touched based with (it was a free site that also had some fun personality tests, blogs and games) but he'd take it down immediately if it bothered me. I asked him to take it down and he did.
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Jun 20, 2012, 06:56 PM
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but, but...he was online within the past week! it's one thing to leave it up but the fact that he logged in speaks volumes. I wouldn't be so forgiving, but that's just me.
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Jun 20, 2012, 07:05 PM
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Is it a free site?
You should check if it's deleted after he said he did it. He could set those emails to spam if he couldn't delete the membership on gmail/hotmail etc?? I've done this before.
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Jun 21, 2012, 08:16 AM
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Jun 21, 2012, 08:33 AM
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Jun 21, 2012, 12:05 PM
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Why can't he do it on his PC and just delete the app?
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Jun 21, 2012, 12:18 PM
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Jun 21, 2012, 11:35 PM
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If you want to puruse it, you could ask him to let you log on to his profile. It will show you if he's been looking at other women's profiles and if he's messaged anyone from the site. Personally, that's something I'd want to know. |
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Jun 22, 2012, 02:31 AM
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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and about to have his baby. And i just found out he had different accounts for facebook and myspace sending messages to girls saying "hello beautiful" or liking every pictures of girls or calling them beautiful. that makes me think if he has cheated on me.. he would accuse me of doing things i never done now i get why he would behave like that towards me. I guess all GUYS are the SAME. I'm really sorry for what you had to find out about your boyfriend Take care sending you alot of hugs
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Jun 23, 2012, 09:01 PM
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I'm split here...on one hand, I do understand that some things cannot be done on the phone as they can on a computer. My iPod's online features are severely inhibited compared to that of my PC. On the other, while it's not really solidly based, there is that nagging voice that asks "What if?"
Why not wait, and remind him in a day or so? Put light (keyword light...don't hound him) pressure on him for a bit, and see what happens. If it isn't down soon, then you might want to worry.
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Jun 23, 2012, 10:06 PM
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I wouldn't believe him. But that's just me
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