Online dating profile

A friend of mine text me this morning...she uses a local online dating site and saw that my bf has a profile on there. I knew he used the site before we met, but its still up, says hes single and that hes been online this week. This really upset me. I sent him a text just asking if he still uses it, which he hasn't replied to yet.

Am I justified being upset?

Absolutely you're justified with being upset. You should see for yourself though and not rely totally on what the friend said. Sorry this is happening to you.

Oh I looked it up before texting him. Its there Thanks.

How long have you been dating and what is the status of your relationship? Do you both have the same understanding about exclusivity? Have you had an exclusivity discussion or did you just assume?

You dont really supply enough info in your OP and I havent read the rest of the thread

We've been dating for about 8 months, are in a serious relationship and are definitely exclusive.

He just answered saying he went on to try and delete it from his phone so he stopped getting the emails from the site, and that he was sorry and should have told me that. Probably just me worrying for nothing once again

If it has been up all that time and he's been dating you for 8 months, I would be happy rather than worried; think of it this way, he's had "opportunity" but you are better than all that! He didn't think to delete it because he was only thinking of you and didn't "remember" it other than as a nuisance email generator.

Thanks Perna! I tend to over react to silly things like this...I feel fine about it now

I totally agree with Perna....after my b.f. and I started dating a few years back I didn't take down my profile for several months because I totally forgot about it...his was up longer than mine and when I asked him about it, he said he'd made some friends that he occasionally touched based with (it was a free site that also had some fun personality tests, blogs and games) but he'd take it down immediately if it bothered me. I asked him to take it down and he did.

but, but...he was online within the past week! it's one thing to leave it up but the fact that he logged in speaks volumes. I wouldn't be so forgiving, but that's just me.

Is it a free site?

You should check if it's deleted after he said he did it.

He could set those emails to spam if he couldn't delete the membership on gmail/hotmail etc?? I've done this before.

Yes thats what bothered me so much too is that he had been on in the past week...but he said he logged on from his phone to try and delete it...and I do believe him.

Yes it is a free site. He said he wasn't able to delete it from his phone...so its still up.

Why can't he do it on his PC and just delete the app?

No regular access to a PC...tried to do it by going on the website on his phone but wasn't able to

Honestly, his story sounds pretty fishy to me.

If you want to puruse it, you could ask him to let you log on to his profile. It will show you if he's been looking at other women's profiles and if he's messaged anyone from the site. Personally, that's something I'd want to know.

I'm sorry for what your going thru.
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and about to have his baby. And i just found out he had different accounts for facebook and myspace sending messages to girls saying "hello beautiful" or liking every pictures of girls or calling them beautiful. that makes me think if he has cheated on me.. he would accuse me of doing things i never done now i get why he would behave like that towards me. I guess all GUYS are the SAME.

I'm really sorry for what you had to find out about your boyfriend
Take care sending you alot of hugs

I'm split here...on one hand, I do understand that some things cannot be done on the phone as they can on a computer. My iPod's online features are severely inhibited compared to that of my PC. On the other, while it's not really solidly based, there is that nagging voice that asks "What if?"

Why not wait, and remind him in a day or so? Put light (keyword light...don't hound him) pressure on him for a bit, and see what happens. If it isn't down soon, then you might want to worry.

I wouldn't believe him. But that's just me