[Zowee1]

Cut long story short shall i...last night in pub, feeling ill (sick, head spinning, funny tummy...had been feeling off all day) A local said "you dont look well" and "aw take her home to bed geoff" (Geoff is my fiance)etc and geoff just carried on his conversation with the locals fiance and ignored the fact i was ill.

Then at the end of the night he'd finished his pint and i said that i really wanted to go home so geoff...gets another BIG half in his pint glass.

Said he'd do the chickens this morning (were looking after them for his mum) ...yeh right. I did them. I hurt, i was crying my eyes out so much i was sick.

We had words when i got back and he started saying that i was stroppy with him this morning even though i only said "ill do the chickens then" and "can i borrow your blue top you were wearing last night to keep me warm?". He spoke/shouted some other stuff to me about me not giving a %#@&#! bout him when he's ill (i do everything i can for him) to me.

He's always shouting at me saying that ive done/said things that i havnt. I feel that im always wrong. He never does anything for me, i always look after him

In the end i said "Geoff...you ever speak that nastily to me again and im out that door and you wont see me again"

Hugs very much appericiated

[Christina86]

((((Zowee)))))

Wow, thats so nice of him (end sarcasm).

[Sabrina]

((Zowee)) - hun, do you realize you are being emotionally abused? Do you want to enter into a marriage like that?

Hope you feel better soon.

i'd say." don't let the door hit you in the *** on the way out!"

[eskielover]

Zowee,

I am afraid that hugz aren't the answer to your problem......think about the relationship you are in at this point.....it doesn't get better with marriage. You are giving him second & third chances now when a relationship should be at it's best (before marriage). Do you really want to be giving him forth & fith & sixth chances the rest of your life.

If you haven't noticed......he isn't respecting you at all.....you are putting everything into the relationship.....what is he putting into it other than psychological & verbal abuse to you. Why do you want to continue feeling this way the rest of your life....you think you are feeling sick now.....if you continue letting him abuse you, you will probably end up feeling sicker & sicker the longer you put up with being treated this way.....it doesn't get better.

Hugz aren't going to make him treat you any better....& from what you posted, he has been continually treating you this way already. In my opinion, the only thing that can help you at this point is for you to dump him....no need to give him any more chances.

Unfortunately, you are the one that has to determine what kind of relationship you are willing to live with for the rest of your life.....& realize that with marriage things can only get worse if they are bad at this point.

Think about what you really want your life to be like before getting married to a person (if you can call him that) like him,
Debbie