[NinaNina]

There are many people in my life who I was very close with that are no longer a part of my life, and I think it really affects how I feel with my boyfriend.

My father and I used to be very close, but he is no longer a part of my life, as he just never put any effort into our relationship anymore and I got tired of it. In the past several years I have only seen him a very few times, and he has never made an attempt to contact me besides that. The man I considered my step-father is no longer in my life for the same reasons. My ex-boyfriend refuses to acknowledge my existence even though I did nothing to deserve that treatment. And if you had read my post recently about my best friend, you will know that she is no longer in my life either.

I think these "hang-ups" are causing and adding to my anxiety about my current relationship. I always get so worked up about every little thing that happens with my boyfriend, and I am terrified of losing him, even though he has given no indication of going anywhere. We have had our issues, as many of you have read, but lately and overall we have a great relationship, but I have a hard time just being happy with how things are. I am always anxious and worried because I feel like if I do anything wrong or if he is in a bad mood one day or anything, that he is going to leave. He is very affectionate and tells me he loves me several times a day, but sometimes its as if I don't believe him. I feel like there is no way he could love me the way I love him.

I have lost all faith in relationships, and people in general. There are so many people around me I see lying and cheating, so I figure the same will happen to me. And sometimes I get in the mind frame that no matter what I will eventually get my heart broken so why even try?

I love my boyfriend so much and I want to just be able to trust him and trust our relationship, and be happy with it. I just wish I knew how.....

Thanks for reading my little rant

[Leed]

Hi Nina ~ I know there are alot of people who are no longer in your life, for one reason or another. And of course that affects you. You may feel rejection, anger, loneliness, and a myriad of other emotions.

But you can't project these into your current relationship when there hasn't been any sign of him leaving you. He's affectionate and attentive -- these are all great signs! He tells you he loves you several times a day -- great!

IF you can, FORGET yesterday -- it's GONE, hon. It can't hurt you anymore, if you don't let it!! And tomorrow isn't even here and we aren't even PROMISED tomorrow! Don't project what will happen tomorrow!! Chances are it will NOT happen. There are NO SIGNS that it will!

Stay in today, because today looks great for you. Enjoy it -- All signs are good. Nothing tells you that anything bad is going to happen, so embrace what you have and forget the past. YOU CAN DO THIS!

God bless and take care! Hugs, Lee