I have no idea how it originated or why I can't overcome it, but I am incredibly sexist when it comes to other women. I don't feel as if the generalisations apply to me; I've only recently discovered some genderqueer aspects about myself. But yeah, it's weird & I have no idea how to explain why I feel this way. I just always have.

Is there anyone else with this problem? And is there anyone who can offer any sort of explanation?

I don't believe I've ever been seriously abused by a woman; though as I grew older, my Mother became a severe psychological burden. But even before that point, I objectified other girls. Even to the point of bordering on a sexual predator by the ripe age of 8. So I think a trauma-related instance is out of the question...
I can't even enjoy occasional pornography or accept anyone else that does without my mind filling with vitriolic, hateful thoughts. And this prejudice also poses problems for my relationship because I automatically assume any woman he is friends with is an air-headed, attention-seeking slut with no motivation other than serving their own selfish & shallow desires.
But oddly enough... This doesn't always apply to people I am friends with, though sometimes the friendship isn't close enough & I do tend to place them into the same category. But the few women I *can* tolerate just seem very vastly different from the majority & I'm thankful for having such good luck in finding tolerable aquaintances.

Any answers would be greatly appreciated. It's really confusing to process.

[Leed]

Hi ~ Gosh -- Something is definitely "haunting" you. If you had these thoughts at 8, obviously SOMETHING happened when you were a child, but you're just either repressing it or just don't remember it. You did say that later, your Mom seemed to have some 'problems."

I would suggest that you get into therapy -- they can help you get to the root of this, and help you remember what happened in the past -- make you delve into that deep, dark closet where we put our secrets that we don't want anyone to see -- even ourselves! Please make an appointment -- you REALLY won't regret it. It might be painful at first, but after you get this stuff out, it is SO relieving!!! You feel so free!

I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

Thank you for the hugs, fishsandwich, & thank you for the response Leed. One day if I have a competent psychologist/therapist, I will have to explore that possibility. Honestly, if it ever did happen? I have no idea who it would have been. My Father was incredibly abusive, but it would be weird if that correlated to sexism against WOMEN. But I appreciate the response. It's something to think about!!

[shezbut]

I have a very similar perspective ~ except mine lies in distrust of men, due to the sexiness of all of the women in this world. I do feel resentful and jealous of other women, it certainly isn't any fun! But my emotions go past the female and go on to blame the man who is unable (or unwilling) to use his brain.

The result is resentment towards both sexes. Women who have to feel super sexy, and the men who appreciate it! I know, I'm an insecure POS. I've been this way for as long as I can recall though! Very best wishes sent your way...

I blamed men when I first grew to understand my distaste... But that was very brief. The way I think about it? It's womens' choice to be viewed that way. I've gone through my life unsexualised & valued for my brain, yet (not to be crude) I got all kinds of *** along the way! So I have a REALLY hard time respecting any of them. I'm pretty sure it's an unnecessary amount of resentment/hatred. I can't even hold a personal grudge for long, so it's odd to be that I am overcome by a true prejudice!! I'll just feel better once I understand it. Even if I don't get over it, having an idea of the cause will allow it to cloud my thoughts less. A sense of control is vital

[here today]

I don’t have any credentials and don’t know you well so I don’t know if I should offer a psychoanalytical explanation. But, given the price you have paid for my opinion . . . have you considered it’s an undeveloped, unrecognized aspect of yourself that you despise when you see it in other women? Was your abusive father also abusive to your mother? If so, then identifying with an abuser is a way for a child to gain a feeling of power in a scary, powerless situation. If he treated your mother with disrespect then that might be another reason why you disrespect women in general, too.

I dont even presume to understand why you are like this with women, people can behave in all sorts of ways and anything can trigger stuff off - muddled thoughts from childhood, someone doing something wrong, who knows?
But in fact its something I actually cant stand about some women. We women have a tough time in a mans world, its still very unequal out there.. and it really annoys me when we dont stick together! Women I swear can be their own worst enemies sometimes.. Its like when a man has an affair people only ever seem to blame the other woman and not the man - hey, it takes two to tango!

However, kudos to you for realising it, and asking for people's thoughts. Perhaps its the first step in rationalising it all and getting some answers/help? I wish you all the very best..

heretoday: That is actually incredibly possible! Thank you. Because my Mum & sister got the worst of the verbal/physical abuse & he favoured me for some reason. So I probably somehow adopted aspects of his behaviour/words into forming my own exterior image of other women. So yeah!! Thank you for that. I feel a little bit better now. (I don't think it's a self-image issue because I worked hard to have the confidence I do today. But that is a very common cause of judgement in most cases; but the other thing makes a LOT more sense.)

riotgrrrl: I understand your perspective completely &, considering the username, I figured I would get a similar response! Hahah. But you make very good points. I just know it in my gut that this is pathological-- not some silly game of body image or envy... It's really disappointing to see so many people consumed in that & that is a huge factor that really aggravates me. And I totally agree about the cheating thing, as well!! Lol thank you for the response, though. I actually feel like I have this handled.

[medkev13]

I was going ot go along the same line as HereToday did. When we have an abusive parent, the expressed views of the abuser get ingrained into our own thought process. If your father was sexist and objectified women, and then abused you, you took the view of him being sexist and applied it to yourself. Being aware of this issue is a huge first step, but ultimately Leed hit the nail on the head with needing to get into therapy for it.

Well, this verification really helps. I kind of feel a little bit more in control already. Like the next time I see some stranger, I'll have a little less rage. A little less animosity. Feel a little less like I'm going to let it get too far. Knowledge does wonders for my coping mechanism. If I can't fix something, at least a partial understanding can allow me to deal with something better than if I had no knowledge. Thank you all. : )