[Jenn1fer82]

I gave online dating (eharmony) a try and I decided to stop using that option to meet people. Its a full time job and its too much to handle when I'm not getting responses back. I used eharmony for 2 months.

So I did the waiting game for men to approach me and that didn't work out.
Then I changed it to where I made the first move in contacting them. It was too much to handle when I wasn't getting any responses back or worst off is when the matches 'closed' all contact even before we even communicated in anyway.
I didn't think rejection would be so difficult and wouldn't impact me so much because its online dating, but after 2 months using eharmony, its taking too much of a toll on me waiting for them to contact me and when I initial communication with them.

I understand that dating either in person or online is still as difficult but over time I just need to take a break from all of it. Does this mean I'm not ready for dating in general? I just don't want to be emotionally tugged around. So with online dating having to wait for their responses and the anticipation is too stressful.

[onetreehill]

Originally Posted by Jenn1fer82

I gave online dating (eharmony) a try and I decided to stop using that option to meet people. Its a full time job and its too much to handle when I'm not getting responses back. I used eharmony for 2 months.

So I did the waiting game for men to approach me and that didn't work out.
Then I changed it to where I made the first move in contacting them. It was too much to handle when I wasn't getting any responses back or worst off is when the matches 'closed' all contact even before we even communicated in anyway.
I didn't think rejection would be so difficult and wouldn't impact me so much because its online dating, but after 2 months using eharmony, its taking too much of a toll on me waiting for them to contact me and when I initial communication with them.

I understand that dating either in person or online is still as difficult but over time I just need to take a break from all of it. Does this mean I'm not ready for dating in general? I just don't want to be emotionally tugged around. So with online dating having to wait for their responses and the anticipation is too stressful.

Hey, I can relate to the online dating experience. I do get guys that contact me but I always find a flaw in their profile. I think it's my way of rejecting them before they can hurt me. Anyway, if you want to take a break, take one! Don't feel bad about being rejected. Everyone gets rejected one time or another. You just can't give up completely. Take a small break and then get back on it. Try joining groups on meetup.com so that there is already a common interest. If you want to try online dating that is free, try Ok Cupid. You will get rejections and you will also reject people. And in the end when you find that right person, those rejections won't matter at all.

[sarek]

I think its also important to figure out exactly what your own psychological profile is and what kind of guys would best match that profile. You may simply be attracting the wrong kind for you.
To state just an example any kind of Sensor person(meyer briggs typology) would be a disaster for me.

Maybe trying different kinds of dating sites that use different formulas could be more useful for you.

[PiecesOfLoveX3]

why not try a different dating site instead of just the one? Most people just send the same hello message.So don't waste time on that.just copy paste.

[flame78]

I've done a decent amount of online dating and know what you are talking about. I agree with the last post that you might want to try another dating site. Another free dating site is Plenty of Fish.

Also you might want to change your profile some. Look up advice on the Internet for what to say in your profile, you'll also find dating do's and don'ts,etc. As for the rejection, it is going to happen regardless of what you do. I mean you will reject others too when you think about it. But yes rejection is tough even online.

Personally I am on a break from relationships and dating. I do find the online dating to be a little stressful though I always think it's fun at first then the stress comes. But I am just taking a break for lots of reasons. It's always good to take a break now and then to work on yourself.

Well hope that helps a little...Good Luck! I know it can be tough but it will work out. Also I recently got into meetup.com as well and also agree with the one post that could be another good option. Have fun!

[flame78]

And another comment about that rejection you might be feeling. Keep in mind when online you don't even know for sure that the guy is for example even available or maybe he's just looking for a booty call and can tell you won't go for that, etc.! So there's lots of reasons people don't respond or stop responding. Try your best not to take it personal.