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Old Jul 29, 2012, 11:13 PM
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So, my boyfriend's going away for a few weeks for work, and he told me that he would talk to me when he got the time. While he wasn't talking to me, he was talking to another girl, telling her all the bad things about me, and saying that I control his life...when I haven't done one controlling thing in our whole relationship, and he's the one that controls my every move. I don't know if I should be mad or not?
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Old Jul 30, 2012, 02:11 AM
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Who did he tell this to? Your best friend? If it was your best friend, he probably knew it would get back to you and make you mad. Are you two having any problems? if you're not, he was just probably blowing smoke. I wouldn't worry about it. Forget it unless he starts causing problems. Just let it go.

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Old Jul 30, 2012, 02:52 AM
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You should be mad! IMO anyway. First he disrespects you, makes you do 'things' you're uncomfortable with, uses your traumatic past against you AND NOW THIS? He's not a nice person. I feel bad for you
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Old Jul 30, 2012, 08:10 AM
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Time for you to move on
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Old Jul 31, 2012, 12:15 AM
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Who did he tell this to? Your best friend? If it was your best friend, he probably knew it would get back to you and make you mad. Are you two having any problems? if you're not, he was just probably blowing smoke. I wouldn't worry about it. Forget it unless he starts causing problems. Just let it go.

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He's telling this to his ex girlfriend. I was on his facebook, cuz he deleted mine, and I saw the messages. I asked him about it and he told me that I need to stop *****ing.
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Old Jul 31, 2012, 12:18 AM
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He deleted YOUR FB? He doesn't own you... Please help me understand here, why do you choose to stay with this person?
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Old Jul 31, 2012, 12:25 AM
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He deleted YOUR FB? He doesn't own you... Please help me understand here, why do you choose to stay with this person?
He said that he deleted it because he didn't want any guys hitting on me.(It happened a lot, but I always made it stop.) He's deleted it multiple times, but I always reactivated it. But this time he told me it either stayed deleted or he'd break my laptop, or tear the tendons in my hands so that I wouldn't be able to type. But, I stay with this guy because I've given him everything, and I have put so much effort into this relationship that I feel like it would be a really bad idea to give up, now. I believe that if something's broken you fix it....not throw it away...
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Old Jul 31, 2012, 12:37 AM
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Well I believe in 'don't fix it if it aint broke'... It aint broke, he is how he is, he won't change. According to him, your relationship aint broke either, its working EXACTLY as HE wishes. Don't get me wrong, I too stayed with a monster bcoz of 'investments' and sheer stubborness, so trust me, I'm not judging. Just wish you understood that life and love have SO MUCH BETTER to offer you than the BS you choose.

Please don't feel bad, but I will refrain from responding further to such posts, as I find it triggering when people seek guidance/advice regarding abusive partners whom they CHOOSE to stay with.

Go well and take care
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Old Jul 31, 2012, 05:20 AM
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He said that he deleted it because he didn't want any guys hitting on me.(It happened a lot, but I always made it stop.) He's deleted it multiple times, but I always reactivated it. But this time he told me it either stayed deleted or he'd break my laptop, or tear the tendons in my hands so that I wouldn't be able to type. But, I stay with this guy because I've given him everything, and I have put so much effort into this relationship that I feel like it would be a really bad idea to give up, now. I believe that if something's broken you fix it....not throw it away...
Hey lady

Have you actually read what you've written there? I mean actually read it an taken it in? The man you are with, who is supposed to treat you with respect, love and understanding is telling you these things.
Yes, you may have put a lot of effort into your relationship, but can you tell me what he has done for you, other than control and threaten you? You are putting all the effort into the wrong man. I hope soon you will realise that you cant fix him, you cant change him, the only thing you will get out of staying with him is more and more misery. You obviously know that he is treating you wrong because you reach out to people here, I hope you can one day soon see what we see, and that is you're with an abusive man who doesnt love you, or even like you. He just wants the power over you and you give it to him.
Its just a shame that you dont listen to the folk here, but I understand that when a person is with an abuser, its hard to see the woods for the tree's and hard to find the strength to find a way out.

You really should find that strength from somewhere - for your safety, your sanity and to prove to yourself that you are worth so much better than this man.

I wish you luck, remember, you cant change him, you can only change yourself.
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Old Jul 31, 2012, 09:19 AM
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He sounds abusive and controlling, he won't change his ways either I guarantee it. If you stay with him expect a life of depression, sadness and loneliness. It's your choice of course but you know the old saying there are plenty of fish in the sea....good luck and take care of yourself
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Old Jul 31, 2012, 10:19 PM
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I will be honest here. You are stupid if you waste another minute with this loser. He has no right to delet your facebook and then say he will break YOUR laptop if you get back on or even worse damage your hands. You need to leave. He is not going to change. I don't care how much you have put into this relationship. He clearly doesn't give two shits about you if he is saying this to his ex girlfriend and than saying that **** to you. I hope you get a wake up call soon before its too late.
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Old Aug 01, 2012, 04:22 AM
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End it. You can find someone who treats you with respect.
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