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Old May 20, 2006, 06:53 PM
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What does it mean to CHERISH someone?

CHERISH:
To hold dear – feel and show affection for someone you hold in high esteem. To greatly value and hold regard for one’s worth. To keep cultivated with care and affection. Implies a special love and care for something precious. To enjoy and admire. Nourish and grasp the nature, worth, quality and significance of. To harbor thoughts of deeply within in the mind. Safeguarding what is considered treasured & precious to ones self at all times – as though life depended on it.

> > > > > > > > Are YOU feeling it today?

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Old May 21, 2006, 01:10 PM
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Can't say as I ever have...

I feel it for my kids and grandkids, but I've never been the recipient. CHERISH - (do YOU feel it)
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Old May 21, 2006, 02:41 PM
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Hi Rhapsody and Friends,

I missed the boat on cherish right from the beginning with my father. My mother on the other hand smothered me.

Is there any hope for those of us who missed it when we were children?

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Old May 21, 2006, 02:47 PM
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EJ, the best thing we can do is learn to cherish ourselves. Not an easy task, but if we don't, who will?
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Old May 21, 2006, 03:33 PM
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Thanks, September Morn!
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Old May 21, 2006, 04:59 PM
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Can't say I feel it at this very moment... I also can't say I ever felt it as a child.. Last thing on mother's mind was having another child and she pretty much let me know it.. Dad wasn't around a lot, so I don't know how he felt.

But, this one guy.. Oooooo he had such a crush on me.... He was ooo so very kind and helpful... Always doing things for me and surprising me with flowers and gifts. He always complimented me and tried to make me feel good about myself...He would have given me the world if I asked him... But I was soooooo afraid of him... I didn't trust him... I thought he was just trying so hard to get sex, which I never let him.. I just knew if I let my guard down, and he "won" me, he'd turn mean and destroy what he tried to build in me....He often said he wish he had known me before I had gotten so screwed up .. I don't know if he is one of the "good" guys or not.. But I do look back and remember him fondly... He cared.. I think? Guess it has been 6 years since I last saw him... I pray he is doing well......So if I was ever to have felt cherished, it would have been by him...
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Old May 21, 2006, 06:08 PM
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Dear EJ,

YES................. there is HOPE for those of us that have missed the boat on CHERISH from childhood.... I am one that never got to take that boat ride until I was an adult and even then it was rough sailing - but now the waters are smooth and the sun is shinning bright.

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Old May 21, 2006, 06:44 PM
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Wow. I also was one of the many who learn to cherish others as a adult. I have a great friend. Supporting each other through grief of our parents passing. It seems to be a two way street. We cherish and then we can learn to cherish.
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Old May 21, 2006, 07:23 PM
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I was too late to edit my post.. And I just thought of a few things to add...Sometimes we take for granted those who "care" about us. I was just thinking of all the wonderful people I have met online. Although we have not met in person, I've known most of these folks for several years. I guess with the feeling "safe" with online friends, I can say I feel cherished and loved by my friends, by both male and female........A feeling.... a sense......It isn't always by the words they write, but something you sense inside.....and then there are the "casual" friends, where you just wave and share little tid bits of this and that ..... So I do feel cherished and I can say I cherish them......

But I am afraid to say, if we all met in person, everything would go to pot.......There is just something special about online friends . I can feel free to be who I am without all the junk that screws up friendships when face to face... I can disagree, agree, be happy, be angry, even not comb my hair and I am accepted......

Seems face to face friendships are more critical and at times even jealously develops or that big "power struggle" To me in real life, you need to watch your toes all the time or they will be stepped on and sometimes even cut off.....With all that "off topic" said... I can say I have cherished and felt cherished by online friends and some real life friends.....To cherish and be cherished is a beautiful thing CHERISH - (do YOU feel it)
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Old May 22, 2006, 02:40 AM
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I must be honest and say that I don't always feel cherished. There seems to be too much going on around me and in the lives of the people who are close to me. But it doesn't stop me doing a whole lot of cherishing. And that always makes my life worthwhile.
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Old May 22, 2006, 03:43 AM
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I liked what you said in your post.........You know, I don't think anyone feels cherished all of the time. As you mentioned, when there are a lot of things going on in our lives or our friends or family, it is hard to even recognize the word let alone feelings of being cherished. Sometimes when depression is at the darkest, I have tunnel vision and can only see the bad things that has happened to me. I have met wonderful folks and some real stinkers... But I think the key, as you have also found, is to know how to cherish .... and yes, it does make life worthwhile CHERISH - (do YOU feel it) I
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