[babey.love.xoxo]

Well , I'm really involve with my boyfriend even know he has cheated on me twice but still. But today my parents told me that he is no longer welcome at our house because e cheated and told him that they doesn't want him anywhere near me anymore. I tried talking to my mother and make her let me see him but she doesn't listen. I need help I haven't spoke to them in hours and I never want to again. And now that I haven't been allowed to talk to him, I have not ate , spoke and I have done bad things to myself. He has tried telling my parents that he is very sorry and that he loves me a lot and that he promises never to do it again but they still don't want him anywhere near me. Is there anyway I could say or do something to make them change there mind?

[Leed]

Honey you're not going to like what I have to say. You see, guys who cheat never stop. They SAY they will, but they dont. There's a saying "once a cheat, always a cheat" and it's basically true. There's something about them that they get a thrill from cheating. IT makes them feel good about themselves. It makes them feel "macho" or something. But just because he SAYS he's going to stop cheating doesn't mean he will.

I can't tell you the number of girls/women that come here crying that their boyfriends promised not to cheat again, but he did. He promised NEVER to do it again, but he did. She gave him another chance, and another and another, but he still cheated. These guys don't care if they hurt the girls.

So I'm with your parents on this one. They are just trying to protect you from further hurt. And your ex was being a JERK. And if you take him back, you'll just be asking for more hurt and more trouble. He doesn't care about your feelings. Find a guy who cares about YOU and who will treat you with RESPECT. This guy sure hasn't.

God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[ladytiger]

new bf end of sentence. ur bf is giving you false hope that he will be a good boy and will never do it again. if he was really sincere, he should have never done it in the first place. i dont see why he is apologizing to your parents it should be between u and him on this matter. however, i would move on and away from him.

[Anika.]

I think Lee could be right, what did he tell you after the first time he cheated? I have a feeling he probably said he would NEVER do it again.

You are young, so why not find a boyfriend who will respect you, yes people do make mistakes. But when you are young, this is the time to learn to set your boundaries on how you are treated in romantic relationships. It's also a good time to build your self esteem, and self worth. When a partner cheats on us, and more than once, it can really make us loose parts of ourselves.

I am pretty sure your parents probably have your best interests in mind. I know it doesn't always seem fair, they probably do not want to see you get hurt over and over. Maybe you can talk to them about how you feel, and they can talk to you about the decision they made. I mean without arguing about what they have decided but just a calm talk. It might help to understand where each of you is coming from.

He does sound like bad news tho, I am sorry you are hurting. Your parents tho, I believe are trying to protect you and have your best interests in mind and he did not. So it might help if you can see where they are coming from with this.

[sesame]

You already said that your boyfriend cheated on his last girlfriend with fourteen other girls. You shouldn't be upset with your parents for not wanting you to see him, you should be upset with HIM for putting yourself and your family in a position where you're all hurt. How many times do you think he apologized to his last girlfriend and told her that he wouldn't do it again? Do you think he loved her? He never said anything to you about having regretted it with her.

He's not relationship material. You aren't going to change him. He isn't going to change.

Hi baby.love.xoxo - Your parents are simply trying to protect you from someone who to be quite honest sounds like nothing but bad news - do you trust him? Do you think he will ever cheat again? If he's done it before its unlikely he won't - why put yourself through that? You will not be able to change or influence his behaviour - let him become mature and responsible on his own, if he doesn't want to change for himself, nothing else is going to give him the initiative. Good luck.

[stormyrose]

I agree with Lee. Your parents are just trying to protect you. He was a jerk for doing that, and there's no excuse. He'll cheat again. Find a guy who really cherishes being with you and respects you enough not to do those things. Best of luck to you.