The Age-Old Question

I know this question is so cliche, but it's driving me nuts.

I've never felt this way about a guy before, literally speechless and shy when I'm normally outgoing, and he's my coworker. We've never quite had a conversation before aside from work-related issues, but I asked him to dinner with a lady coworker and me tomorrow, and he told me it would depend on how he feels after work since he's always really busy going to different school sites. He said if not tomorrow, he'll find another day.

He's super laid back and I'm super laid back, but what do we talk about? I feel dumb for asking, but how do I find starting ground without it sounding obvious I'm trying to flirt?

I'd recommend focusing on asking him Q's. Does he like working at ____ and doing ____? He's checking out different schools? To transfer to for college education? What's he interested in doing in the future? Any big hopes or dreams that he's reaching towards? Does he have siblings? If yes, how old & how many?

Can you relate to any of the things talked about, or are you just nervous throughout?? When he asks you Q's, can you answer them? Or do you stumble over words and forget what you're talking about? If the date makes you more nervous, chances are that the attraction is more sexual than emotional. If you can talk with one another about interests and time flies by as you meet, that's a great sign that you've got something special.

Very best wishes to you!

I think this was excellent advice. People enjoy being able to talk about themselves. I would only add that it is important to simply be sincere. A lot of people make the mistake of trying to "impress" people but most of the time those efforts are quickly transparent. If the chemistry is there it will manifest itself sooner or later.

Go in with no expectations, but hold close to hope deep within above be positive, and do not worry too much about the possibility of making "mistakes" as sometimes our little quirks can be just as endearing to another as our obvious positive qualities.