[Hotchickn123]

Today I had a ok day. Sometimes me and my husband argue and I feel so distant from him. I feel like I cant get anything right and I am not good enough as a wife and as a mother. I really want him to see the best in me. Any ideas that could help me?

[Leed]

Sweetie, just KNOW that you are good enough as a wife and mother!!! Why would you think you weren't? Does he tell you that you aren't? I certainly hope not!

All you can do is your very best -- and then you'll KNOW that you're good enough. Then there are some days when we have "bad" days -- when we're tired and run down, and we just can't do our best. Don't beat yourself up for those days because we're all just human. You have to give yourself a break every now and then. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Try not to be a perfectionist.

Just be yourself and that should be good enough. He loved you as you were before, so he'll love you "as yourself" now. Take care and God bless. Hugs, Lee

You don't need to be told you are a good mother or wife to know you are one. Yes its nice for people to reaffirm that they appreciate you and if this isn't happening in your marriage or not often enough i would speak with your husband about the matter. Yes we can't change people but sometimes when two people get settled into a way of life things like this can sometimes be overlooked and he might just need a gentle nudge in the right direction. Im sure he wants to please you just as much as you wish to please him - all couples fight, its natural, if its becoming a real problem then its not too late to do something about it. If marriage counselling is an option i would give it a go but from the information you're giving me it sounds like you might just need a few more heart to hearts and work on improving communication. I hope you can find a way to speak up about this issue to your husband. All the best.