[kimmydawn]

It could fit in a few places...but does here too.

My baby girl graduated just last Friday. She's been in a committed relationship for 7 mos., and was 18 last Nov. They've shown much responsibility thus far.

The boy (22) has been staying here since hubby got him a pretty decent job...he had NO worries and passed the drug test with flying colors. He doesn't even have the occassioal beer. Daughter shows NO fear of him, and I've never seen any anger from him and trust me, we've seen ALOT of him...

They have decided to stay in the apt. over my mother while she goes to tech college, they both work and save. She's so young!

While I'm upset to "loose my baby", and that she's moving so fast, I'm also relieved about some things...They're staying over the mother and pay rent that's next to nothing so if it doesn't work AT ALL, she can ask him to leave and still make it should she want to. I don't want her to feel "stuck" at all! They're both good kids, showing responsibility. Also, they will have privacy and transition into fulltime adulthood, rent/own, etc. there. Similar to my oldest when she went away to college and lived on campus...a smoother transition.

So with alot of "goods" to this (and trust me, I've been counting those goods since oldest's horrible health concern), and having little man to (I assume) prevent empty nest feelings, why do I feel so sad?

This just isn't the way I planned it, but certainly nothing close to what was be feared (late at night while praying for guidance) of how things could've turned out at this point either. There's just been alot lately...

Thanks guys.

KD

[jbug]

I wish I knew what to say kd as I don't have any kids. I know one of my good friends has a house full of kids this summer...her two kids and John David's gf. I know come Sept. she will be feeling the empty nest something awful. I think when your "baby" grows up and moves away its hard. I don't know what to say except (((((((((((((((kd))))))))))))))))))

Jbug

[kimmydawn]

thank you

(((((((((((((((((jannie)))))))))))))))))))

i'm trying to be brave, and count my blessing, but i feel a HUGE sadness.

KD

[Rhapsody]

Hi KD..... what can a mother say when her baby leaves the nest? - but to PRAY and SUPPORT and never REJECT.... I fell in love at 16 and married him at 18 and we are still together 20 years later (and very much in love).

BTW - My baby boy is 21 and he is more into his car than having a girlfriend.... so now I worry that I will never be a grandma - lol.
Ok - maybe when I am 70 I will be..... he might be ready to settle down by then.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[wanttoheal]

(((((((((((((kimmydawn)))))))))))))
Understand. When daughter went out on own, even though son was still home, it was a major adjustment for everyone. Change, even good change affects us. I know little man will keep you busy for sure, but it's just not the same. I'm glad she will be living close by. You're an awesome mom. The sadness you are feeling attests to that fact. She will still be your baby girl, but I understand your feelings about it. It's hard, but hang in there, it gets better-ish.

[SeptemberMorn]

She's your baby, KD. We tend to want to hang on to our babies longer than the others for some reason... even after they're married and with families of their own. They'll always be "my baby."

[jennie]

She is an adult . . . it's her life. BUT, if I were her mom I would feel sad she didn't experience life on her on first before moving in with someone (sexual relationship). Young adult women tend to equate sex as love more so than men. I believe college should come before romance. But, that's my ideal.

I guess the most important thing is . . . Is she happy? I hope so.

(((((((kimmydawn))))))

[kimmydawn]

Thanks ((((((((((everyone))))))))))))

It's rough for a variety of reasons, I think.

[nothemama8]

KD, as the others have said she is your youngest and that alone makes it hard, also you always had another female to bond with, your thinking now the sharing will be gone not so she may be gone physically but she will be around in your heart and soul, besides absence makes the heart grow fonder, she'll be back all to soon, you raised her and she needs your guidence
Love
Angie

[tracylee]

Oh wow, i just read this and it made me realise that my son has been 'out of the nest' for a little over a year (he joined the army). It's amazing how quickly time flies isnt it?

He comes home to visit on long leave as he is based at the other end of the country, the main thing is though, he is enjoying himself and his happy and i guess thats what we all want for our kids.

I still have to remind him to send me a text message or phone me when he gets back to base, which he doesnt do!!! I generally know he got back ok coz his gf tells me!!

Biggest huggles and thank god for responsible and sensible kids, which goes to show what an awesome and well respected Mum you are.

[kimmydawn]

I have to say she's soooooooo cute. She's showing how young she in in some ways.

My daughter can't cook. Sure, she can make grilled cheese, soup, scrambled (not fried) eggs, etc. So she's called every night (after her daddy helped her make a grocery list) to ask what to do and I have to walk her through her little dinners...one night hamburger then a cake. She didn't know the basics.

It doesn't seem real. I get just as frustrated with her now and I did then...lol. She asks me something that she has NO clue about just to argue it. LOL.

It stormed last night and they were going to come over to get a few things and she told her S/O to hurry so she could get to mom's before it started storming. Her S/O said "she wants her mommy." LOL.

Nah, I haven't "lost" her...hehehe. That for sure...she came in this morning with a huge bag of laundry to drop off on her way to work. Her mammaw said she could use hers, but she's embarassed to tell her she doesn't know how! Yes, I've tried to teach her all of these things but she wanted nothing to do with them. Now, it's cool to know that my frustration for all the years of her not helping as she shoud is a little bit of "leverage" to keep her close...haha.

Thanks everyone,

KD

[hillbunnyb]

The ol' laundry trick, eh??? If kids only knew... they are so ready to move on. No concept of how big a hole that leaves in Mom's life. Glad you've got transition space and she's not far gone. Mr Little Man, what a gift, especially now.