[Jekyll_Hyde_Man]

Well, today, my friend decided that she was sick of me. She decided that she was done helping me, done talking to me. I dated her for 3 years, and we just broke up over the summer, mutual solution to problems that we were having. We were fighting too much, getting into arguements a lot and it just wasn't healthy for either of us.
I was the listener in the relationship. I was never the one to speak, because whenever I spoke, she would always find something to poke fun at about the way that I spoke, or the thing that I spoke about. She hated my family, and always spoke badly of them. She was afraid of my dog, even though hers is more vicious than mine would ever be. She always had to be right. She always had to be in charge. And I put up with all of this because I thought that maybe if I kept dealing with it, and not letting it affect me, she would stop. She would get tired of having no retaliation. And I knew that the problem stemmed from the environment she was being raised in. So I stuck with her, for 3 whole years.
And today, months after we'd broken up officially, though we'd technically been apart for at least several months, my orchestra director decided to walk in and mention something about the possibility that I was dating a student from the other school that he works with. And so my friend got upset, and threw her lunch tray at me, getting fruit juice on me. And then when I finally got to eat later, she started questioning me about the guy I'm sort-of-kind-of-not-really dating. And she asked while I was chewing. So being polite, I wasn't talking but I was gesturing for her to hold on, and she snapped at me and got ticked off and said she didn't want to talk to me. And so I left the area to go calm myself down.
I later texted her, apologizing for what not telling her, for not letting her know that I might possibly be dating someone, but I didn't want to tell her until it was official. I hadn't even told my parents yet, hadn't told anyone. And we got into an arguement via text and now she never wants to speak to me again. She deleted my number from her phone. And now she's sitting back three rows on the right side of the classroom, laughing with her friends, happy as can be. I really meant nothing to her? I really meant so little? I don't know what to do. I mean, it's probably a good thing for me that we won't be talking anymore, because now I'll be able to do things I wasn't able to do before. But I mean...she was the only IRL friend that I had. The only person I could talk to. I'm miserable, and I've never been so...confused. I just don't know what to do....

[healinghearts]

I think you are free to be you now. You sound like a very kind person deserving of respect, caring and love. Let others see this goodness you showed here. Be you ...
Healinghearts

[shezbut]

It may seem as though your friend was the only person that you could open up to about deep issues on your mind. However, you did say that you usually had to just listen to her. She made fun of you, disliked your family, was very judgmental, and hot-headed.

You may be in deep pain and confusion now, but, things will get better. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness! Very best wishes to you...

I agree.. she may have been a friend, but I dont think always a very good one. Be kind to yourself, you didnt do anything wrong. Enjoy your new relationship and I hope you'll be ok.

[Leed]

Why don't you re-read what you posted to us. Was she REALLY THAT GOOD of a friend? Somehow I don't think so. You did all of the listening. She dissed your family, which is an absolute no-no in my book. Would you even THINK of attacking HER family? Of course not! She never listened to you. If you talked, she just poked fun at you. What kind of a friend is that? I have a best friend that I've known since I was 4 yrs old, and I would NEVER make fun of her -- NEVER. And I'd never even THINK of attacking her family. And when she talks, I listen -- I don't poke fun at her. A friend is just that -- a friend, that you can rely on at all times. A friend is there for you when you need them, thru tough times and good times. A friend doesn't use you -- a friend lets YOU use THEM.

I'm glad you're rid of her. I think YOU should start laughing and joking in class, and show her that SHE meant nothing to YOU. She's not a good friend, and in fact it pretty much looks like she's really not a good person.

You'll be fine. Spread your wings and fly. Now you can do whatever you want to do. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee