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Old Nov 18, 2012, 06:28 AM
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Ever since my only close college friends (and roommates) told me we can't live together next year, I've shut down into myself and am kind of keeping to myself just because I know we won't be friends next year.

I have a hard time making friends that I feel comfortable with, and I feel that I won't be able to find other college friends. I might actually end up commuting from home to save money, so in that case I will be hanging out with my parents 24/7.

I'm used to friendships coming and going, it's nothing new. It's just very exhausting and I'm too scared to be alone again. It's brought my depression back and I don't know what to do anymore.

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Old Nov 18, 2012, 02:31 PM
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Hi Meganms --- Why do you feel you won't be able to find other college friends? I dont' understand? They don't have to be "close" friends to be roommates. You'll get closer after they move in. But ask an acquaintance if they'd like to room with you next year. That shouldn't be too hard, right? They might be looking for someone to room with too. It can't hurt to ask -- all they can say is "no."

And if you just commute from home, that's really expensive because the gas prices are out of sight, and they're NOT going down. They'll probably go UP.

So just ask some acquaintances if they'd like to room with you. I'll bet you'll find someone that will take you up on it.

BEst of luck Megan, and God bless. Keep us posted, ok? Hugs, Lee
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Old Nov 18, 2012, 02:38 PM
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i learned that i don't need friends to live. don't be scared to be alone! look at the bright side, friends comes with head and heart aches. roommate doesn't always mean friend, if you don't want to live with your parents just look for other roommates, i am sure there are some who need a roommate.
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Old Nov 18, 2012, 11:08 PM
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I know that I don't have to live with friends, and I know for sure I can find roommates if I look later on this year.
I'm just very scared to live with people I don't know, and my parents would rather I didn't as well. But I might end up doing so, anyways.
I calculated the gas prices versus the price of rent and it actually is cheaper by a couple hundred dollars, which isn't a ton but enough to buy me groceries and other things that add up.

I know it sounds ridiculous that I don't think I can make other friends, but I really don't think I can. I've tried making friends before and it usually doesn't work.
My best friends from home are people I've known since I was 6, and of course I've made friends along the way, but they never last.

I cherish close friends much more then 'just' friends, but I am trying to keep positive.
I've been alone before, and that was my lowest point, which is why I'm scared to return to that.
Thanks for the responses!
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Old Nov 19, 2012, 06:32 AM
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it is not ridiculous, i can't make new friends or bear to live with new people. but there is a time when you have to get over your fear in order to do what you need!
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