[del12]

My sister and I have has little contact for the past few years. She has numerous times contacted me asking if we could talk and apologizes for not being there after the death of a family member. When I have repsonded and said yes let me know I will not hear frim her for months and then we go through the whole routine again with her contacting and not following through. The last time she decided she wanted to "join" the family for a family celebration she called at the last minute and acting like nothing happened. I finally put my foot down and let her know that what she has done is not okay and until she is ready to really follow through I was done with her "games". And she wasn't welcome. Now I find out the day before she has weasled her way into Thanksgiving even though she originally said she had to work. I am worried about how I will react. I am so deeply hurt and angry with her. Once again she just waltzes in without any regard to others. What to do? I will show up but I am so worried I won't be able to contain my emotions and I don't want to ruin the day for others. Ugh! How can any one be so selfish as to disregard others. If she hasn't changed she will just act like nothings wrong. I am so tired of dealing with her and her crap.

[Yoda]

Just smile when you see her - like dogs showing their teeth when they are aggressive.

[girlwithbrownhair]

Originally Posted by del12

My sister and I have has little contact for the past few years. She has numerous times contacted me asking if we could talk and apologizes for not being there after the death of a family member. When I have repsonded and said yes let me know I will not hear frim her for months and then we go through the whole routine again with her contacting and not following through. The last time she decided she wanted to "join" the family for a family celebration she called at the last minute and acting like nothing happened. I finally put my foot down and let her know that what she has done is not okay and until she is ready to really follow through I was done with her "games". And she wasn't welcome. Now I find out the day before she has weasled her way into Thanksgiving even though she originally said she had to work. I am worried about how I will react. I am so deeply hurt and angry with her. Once again she just waltzes in without any regard to others. What to do? I will show up but I am so worried I won't be able to contain my emotions and I don't want to ruin the day for others. Ugh! How can any one be so selfish as to disregard others. If she hasn't changed she will just act like nothings wrong. I am so tired of dealing with her and her crap.

Not sure what to say except I hear your frustration.

But when you think about it, doesn't know like your sister knows how to be part of a family. And she can't learn that, without a family around.

When did she start to be this way?